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ct-yankee t1_ixyth0m wrote

In my experience, it is in your best interest to get a mediator and come to an agreement together. Also, get an attorney yourself and have them provide advice, guidance and a review of the final agreement. CT is a no fault state (though not exclusively - so the WHY of the divorce will matter if things get ugly.).

  1. There are child support guidelines that are followed to the letter with consideration given who the children will be with, etc.
  2. Alimony is not always pursued, but since you are a stay at home mom, I am presuming an attorney will tell you that you "should" pursue it.
  3. Marital Assets are split 50/50. This will include everything including 401k/pension/home equity/savings/cars/motorcycles/boats/etc. The party that gets the house has to "buy out" the equity of the other (a factor in the overall splitting of the assets.). That is, if you say you want the house, prepare to have to be entirely responsible for it after the divorce.
  4. Debt is split according to income, unless specific agreements are reached.

I am a divorced dad of three. Been through this, bought both t-shirts (haha). Happy to share if you want some atty names, who I used for mediator, etc.

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Nigel_IncubatorJones t1_ixzkwpi wrote

What me and my ex wife did is I kept my 401k and pension in exchange for not having any interest in the house. Otherwise she would have had to sell the house in order to give me my share, and I didn't want our 4 kids having to move out of the house into an apartment.

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Allinorfold34 t1_ixz30ya wrote

Anything owned pre marriage is exempt from the split, right?

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Hot-Cry920 t1_ixz48qu wrote

Nope dont rush into marriage can financially ruin

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Allinorfold34 t1_ixz8gp4 wrote

I don’t think this is correct. If you own something pre marriage I think it’s exempt from the 50/50 split. Anything acquired during marriage is fair game.

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Hot-Cry920 t1_ixzb0mf wrote

Im in Massachusetts now so this may not pertain ct…Massachusetts law (Chapter 208, Section 34) specifies that “the court may assign to either husband or wife all or any part of the estate of the other.” In other words, the court can take all the property of one spouse, even premarital, and give 100% of it to the other spouse!

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Nigel_IncubatorJones t1_ixzlf9e wrote

I think so, unless it has gained value during the marriage. Anything acquired during the marriage or any increase in value to savings or stocks or 401k. And if one person already owned the house the other person is can claim half the value of any equity gained during the marriage... I'm not a lawyer, but I've been through a divorce

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