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t1_iqy6zf5 wrote

Me too, Bob, me too

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t1_iqz7nng wrote

Me three.

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t1_iqykeht wrote

This always makes me sad!! To think Bob Ross was sad!! I cannot. Just sitting there, feeling low, waiting on the good times. My heart.

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t1_iqzfb4b wrote

Oh boy… you might not want to watch the documentary about his life. Bob had plenty to be sad about.

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t1_iqzneqq wrote

I don’t think I could cope

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t1_ir0130g wrote

It’s a true American story.

Man uses his passion to teach and to make others happy, then some greedy assholes get him to sign his rights away to the point his son can’t even use his own last name to teach art.

America! Yeah!

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t1_ir0a9fq wrote

Its fucked up but you gotta read what you sign or hire someone you trust to do it. Evil will always come after you unprepared. However if you expect it and do the homework you can make it out of here with dignity and sanity intact.

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t1_ir1gff7 wrote

Except if you watched the documentary it’s pretty much implied they forged his signature or tricked him into signing when he was mentally incompetent.

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t1_ir1h0km wrote

I find that the people I know that objectively drew the roughest lot seem to break towards actually having a good outlook on life. Like, we spend our whole lives in this anxious state about how bad things CAN get that when you actually do catch a string of shit, you suddenly realize how good things were and can be again or something.

Some way to harness this for everyone, man. Would be neat

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t1_ir1pqzk wrote

Confirmation bias, the ones that aren't optimistic about shit circumstances end up dead

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t1_iqyu5fl wrote

You'll often find that those who try the hardest to help others do so because they have also struggled. ❤️

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t1_iqzt5ir wrote

They would shield anyone they can from the pain that they’ve known all too well.

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t1_ir10bkz wrote

I feel this. There are humans behind the motivational poster accounts and they might be doing it for themselves as much as they do it for others.

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t1_iqyqsu1 wrote

Hey buddy, I hope your heart can find some light tonight. I know what it means to be low. I hope that soon you can laugh in the face of your sorrow.

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t1_iqz9mj7 wrote

Laugh in the face of your sorrow. I love that. Sometimes I laugh at inappropriate times and I'm not sure why- maybe it's just the ridiculousness of it all, the complete arbitrary meaninglessness of everything. But people get upset and think I'm laughing at them, and I'm not, I'm laughing in the face of it all. Thanks!

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t1_iqzyr0l wrote

Humour is one of the greatest defenses against sorrow

Sometimes the situations we find ourselves in are so absurd, that when we take a step back we realize how insanely unlucky we are.

And yet still things can get worse. Life is weird.

On the flip side there are times where we just luck out too. It probably all evens out for the average person.

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t1_ir06x7r wrote

Reminds me of the parable of the Chinese farmer:

“There once was a Chinese farmer whose horse ran away. That evening, all of his neighbors came around to commiserate. They said, “We are so sorry to hear your horse has run away. This is most unfortunate.” The farmer said, “Maybe.” The next day the horse came back bringing seven wild horses with it, and in the evening everybody came back and said, “Oh, isn’t that lucky. What a great turn of events. You now have eight horses!” The farmer again said, “Maybe.”

The following day his son tried to break one of the horses, and while riding it, he was thrown and broke his leg. The neighbors then said, “Oh dear, that’s too bad,” and the farmer responded, “Maybe.” The next day the conscription officers came around to conscript people into the army, and they rejected his son because he had a broken leg. Again all the neighbors came around and said, “Isn’t that great!” Again, he said, “Maybe.”

The whole process of nature is an integrated process of immense complexity, and it’s really impossible to tell whether anything that happens in it is good or bad — because you never know what will be the consequence of the misfortune; or, you never know what will be the consequences of good fortune.”

-Alan Watts retelling the parable

We can believe the world is conspiring against us, believe that only favorable things are happening for us, or accept that the game isn’t over until it’s over, and what set you back years ago could be setting you up years from now, and vice versa. What’s happened can’t be changed, what will happen is unknown. All we have is today and really, just this moment, and what we make of it.

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t1_ir11b91 wrote

Thanks AmazingBarfingDick, this is something I've never heard before but I wish I had sooner

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t1_iqzor7n wrote

This episode was the day after his wife died was diagnosed with cancer. Very sad moment indeed.

Edit: don't want to spread misinformation, apparently she was still alive, but diagnosed with cancer. Very sad nonetheless.

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t1_iqzpxrz wrote

Other comments clarified she was still alive when this originally aired, but had been diagnosed with cancer :(

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t1_iqzpq57 wrote

As others have pointed out, this is not true.

She was sick, but still alive at that point.

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t1_iqzqqko wrote

I mean that's exactly what he means though, it's okay to be sad, there's nothing wrong about him being sad. Being sad about being sad is a vicious circle that's hard to break. Be happy that you're able to be sad. Be thankful that you can appreciate the light after darkness.

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t1_ir0atps wrote

Bob had a lot of sadness - but he always carried a light with him in the darkness.

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t1_iqzqotb wrote

Yeah, really motivational. "Whenever you're depressed, just wait for it to go away! :-) "

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t1_iqzte34 wrote

What he's saying is that you can relax the clenched fist of brooding and doubt. That additional suffering on top of the sadness is optional.

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t1_iqy7wk2 wrote

I'm still waiting for the good times too

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t1_iqzpkhu wrote

Don't just wait for the good times, start looking for them. Make yourself find so.ething beautiful each day. Sme at every one you make contact with. Compliment people on something *even if it's just "Hey nice shirt". I was once in your shoes. I wA sad to the point of binge drinking so I wouldn't have to deal the sadness. It just made it worse, because then I felt sadness & guilt Keep looking! Volunteer! It makes you feel so good. Good luck to you! I hope you find some happy 🧡

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t1_ir0ka02 wrote

I have this kind of mindset on my every day life. Even during my commute, stuck in traffic, I try to find beauty around me to give me a little spark of joy.

For me it's usually the clouds. I think they're very neat. Beauty and happiness are everywhere, sometimes it's just about turning off the filter in your brain and viewing the world like a newborn would to see the beauty around us

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t1_iqy7257 wrote

I've heard this was filmed right about after his wife passed away. Hits home everytime.

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t1_iqzeakv wrote

Not true, but that doesn't take anything away from it. Everyone's lives are full of highs and lows that aren't as clear cut as a loved one dying or anything you can chop out like that. Bob had a Buddhist kind of philosophy. He understood the nature of his suffering and even if he was depressed or things weren't going his way he always looked for the silver lining. With this mindset you can overcome anything.

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t1_iqyd2zn wrote

There's a great Alan Watts lecture where he says, if humans could choose what to dream about, eventually they'd even choose dreams where they suffered. We need it.

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t1_iqzg02n wrote

I wonder I wonder what you would dream if you could dream any dream you wanted to at night. ….. you could dream the most fantastic adventures fight dragons. But then one day you’d want to be surprised. That maybe it won’t all work out then you’d Eventually dream where you are now. Living the life you are actually loving I got it way off but you get the point Actually here’s a link

https://youtu.be/ckiNNgfMKcQ

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t1_iqy9pnh wrote

So True....

Got to feel the sadness to appreciate the happiness....

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t1_iqz5mgy wrote

So umm I have a question, when can one expect these good times to come? Because I have enough sadness to last several lifetimes.

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t1_ir02mfx wrote

If you find yourself in a situation that never brings you happiness, perhaps you should put yourself in a better situation.

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t1_iqzemjh wrote

This makes me so sad, especially considering how he was exploited by people he considered friends. And they’re still making money off of him.

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t1_iqyyqyh wrote

I waited about 25-8 years, I finally realized it's just not coming. 🤷🏻‍♂️ At 33 and I'm glad I stopped waiting. Life's constantly getting worse but its just freeing not having some idea that it's gonna get better or more fun or enjoyable.

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t1_iqz35zj wrote

... omg try to find something that inspires you!! .... Become obsessed with it. I've been the happiest I've ever been for nearly 5 or 6 years now because I'm obsessed (almost to the point of madness??) with my passions. And then cool people start gravitating to you.

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t1_iqz3de6 wrote

I have no money, no transportation, live in a very rural area... The things that inspire me are things very far out of reach for me. Plus I'm just not that passionate about anything. Except maybe voting for progressive politics and listening to stand-up comedy.

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t1_ir0ip2b wrote

“No money” Work on getting a good job then where you can get out of that situation then my guy

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t1_ir0jdnk wrote

I always wondered what was going on in his life that prompted him to say this. I hope it was all OK in the end.

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t1_iqyfya3 wrote

Every picture has its shadows And it has some source of light

  • Joni
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t1_ir0cbt6 wrote

> The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.

  • Kahlil Gibran
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t1_iqzeouz wrote

This was 1991-ish. Ross suffered numerous illnesses, and was diagnosed with [terminal] lymphoma for several years [more than one] prior to his 1995 passing.

I believe this is the "waiting on the good times now" reference -- 64% to 75% of lymphoma patients make it five more years, and that's the 'worse' variety [which Ross had].

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t1_ir0aqat wrote

This was me a few weeks back when my grandmother passed. It comes in waves. It’s made me snap out of my headspace and connect with people. I am thankful two years back I picked up the phone and started calling her weekly. She was something special to me - brought so much light through her firey self. Miss you Grams.

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t1_iqzn9yq wrote

Ok hold on. This man literally. Why do affro's exist? Can you sleep like that? No cowlick, no beyblade ass yugi cut? My man just styling on the fresh?

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t1_ir062zr wrote

He was born with it. When he was a baby the doctors gave him a medical grade hair pick that doubled as a paintbrush kazoo.

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t1_ir0hs79 wrote

”If we had no winter, the spring would not be so pleasant; if we did not sometimes taste adversity, prosperity would not be so welcome”.

  • Anne Bradstreet
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t1_ir0jpx3 wrote

Just FYI there is a Bob Ross channel that just plays his paintings all day. Sling has it.

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t1_ir0n92h wrote

Well said.. I am waiting on the good times too 😭

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t1_ir1ilvf wrote

Correct me if I'm wrong but I believe this episode was filmed, shortly after his wife passed.

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t1_iqyz0wv wrote

It’s okay to have hard times. The difference between those who are successful in spite and those who aren’t, is believing and knowing that good times are always coming.

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t1_iqzmc9n wrote

I used to believe in good times

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t1_iqztawk wrote

I randomly remind myself, and whoever im around, that right now we are not sick.

You can breath with no problem, with arent sore or unable to talk, or needing 8 pills a day.

Ok im still depressed but at least i donthave to deal with breathing at the same time.

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t1_ir0pdid wrote

This is one of my all time favorite quotes.

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t1_ir0pgqv wrote

This is one of my all time favorite quotes.

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t1_ir0y8vo wrote

wasnt this episode shortly after his wife died? It mskes me always sad.

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t1_ir1rk08 wrote

My leg just broke a few weeks ago, and I've still been down as I'm trying to deal with it, basically skipping my favorite season while this thing heals.

But this way of thinking? For a moment, it made me stop thinking "I hate these bad times" and instead think "wow, I'm so excited for when the good times come again"

Thanks for the post :)

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t1_ir1vn4n wrote

Didn’t he say this when his wife was sick or something

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t1_ir1vsi1 wrote

There was such a beautiful vibe to someone as respectful and balanced as bob

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