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[deleted] OP t1_j80jd3k wrote

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thequeasydream t1_j80jzr6 wrote

Man I hope so. She’s type 1 diabetic, I think she has kidney disease and she’s started smoking again. Sigh. She’s been under a ton of stress over the last years and I wonder if she’s gonna have a heart attack from it soon.

But.. her mom was also type 1 diabetic with CKD and lived to 87. Also smoked some. And her dad lived to like 88. So… hopefully my mom will have the same longevity. Lol

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Heather_Designer t1_j7xu0vs wrote

Can you bring your mom along on your move? Where do you want to move to?

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thequeasydream t1_j7xui1m wrote

I would like to. She has a boyfriend that lives somewhat around here (like 100 miles away but still..) and says she doesn’t want to leave him. I don’t think they’re that into each other; they barely see each other in person as it is. But they’re lonely widows.

I think if push came to shove and I actually moved she could change her mind. It would take a lot of convincing, she’d have to prep and sell her house and I don’t think I have the time considering my lease is up in May.

And Florida.

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Heather_Designer t1_j7xvnx9 wrote

Maybe plan a vacation to Florida with her. Go to some if the communities you’re interest with her. I bet she’d love it!

Where are you now?

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pedestrianpinniped t1_j7xzy3w wrote

Sounds like you need to get out of there, fomenting disillusionment is not healthy. I wouldn't necessarily be comfortable signing a year long lease as a newbie that doesn't seem to have much support, but only so much you can do when some distance is that important to your mental health. I wouldn't worry too much about failing, it has happened to the best of us multiple times. Do be sure to budget visiting your mum often (I often had two months of groceries forced on me upon return and it was a net positive lol), but I doubt she would want you shackled and unable to grow as into your own person as a result of her decline. You literally can't be there all the time, and you are in the prime of your life mam. Your mom would want you to cut loose and keep moving forward as often as keeps you happy. No offense but screw what anyone else says.

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bringtheheet88 t1_j82cf6c wrote

I’m from Missouri and moved to South Carolina when I was your age. Best decision of my life. It really helped me grow and get away from everything that was defining me at the time. I’m married with a baby now and I want to move home to be with family. But this point of your life is pivotal and time you’ll never get back. Nothing is permanent, and you can always move back if it’s not for you. If you’re being pulled towards it, I’d pay attention to the call.

This will sound harsh, but you’ll have more regret living your life for someone else than moving and realizing later you hate it. You’re not the parent here and you shouldn’t feel tied to her in that way. Go live YOUR life in the way you desire.

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thequeasydream t1_j82cwz2 wrote

True true. I wonder if I could figure out and get the moving process completed in the next couple months?

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bringtheheet88 t1_j82djh6 wrote

Depends on where you’re going! You could also see about going month to month on your lease until you’re ready? Instead of committing to an entire year.

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1nqu1sitiveBug t1_j871etr wrote

I’m in a similar boat, but just landed a good job with benefits.. I know I don’t want to live and die in Florida, but I’m not sure if I want to do van life or move elsewhere yet. So I’m going to keep conceptualizing/saving through the next election, and work on getting my mom on board lol

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