pedestrianpinniped

pedestrianpinniped t1_j7xzy3w wrote

Sounds like you need to get out of there, fomenting disillusionment is not healthy. I wouldn't necessarily be comfortable signing a year long lease as a newbie that doesn't seem to have much support, but only so much you can do when some distance is that important to your mental health. I wouldn't worry too much about failing, it has happened to the best of us multiple times. Do be sure to budget visiting your mum often (I often had two months of groceries forced on me upon return and it was a net positive lol), but I doubt she would want you shackled and unable to grow as into your own person as a result of her decline. You literally can't be there all the time, and you are in the prime of your life mam. Your mom would want you to cut loose and keep moving forward as often as keeps you happy. No offense but screw what anyone else says.

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pedestrianpinniped t1_j6gwvth wrote

I get where you're coming from but I would say expand your empathy a bit. Could just be dicks but I suspect many of the comments like this come from people who spent weeks/months/years simmering in frustration watching someone they cared about repeatedly refusing to leave an obviously abusive relationship. It is not only traumatic to the direct victim.

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pedestrianpinniped t1_j6bzv9x wrote

I'm still not getting it, Putin obviously treats the West different than others, way more hostility and paranoia, way less success at bullying. No one that's been paying attention for the last 20 years is particularly surprised that Putin's gonna Putin, but it is surprising to see him drop the ball this hard.

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pedestrianpinniped t1_isckrzn wrote

It doesn't need to be the majority to be a problem. Unreasonable minorities on both sides get all the spotlight thanks to social media algorithms and are thus affecting our kids. You are literally doing the "Not all men argument" here FFS, so blind.

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