astroember t1_jecalpp wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:35 PM

The people that need to hear this the most are not the people who will listen to this

NoVaFlipFlops t1_jedh03p wrote on March 31, 2023 at 5:34 AM

I myself was once a person who did not understand this. It did take hearing the explanations and linking those to my own experiences to get it. Growing up with narcissistic parents teaches you narcissistic behavior and maladaptive core beliefs, and so believe it or not, being a narcissistic 20something is traveling a difficult road -- it takes many villagers and bumpy lessons to navigate to better lands.

LadyCheeseWater t1_jedr5q3 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 7:48 AM

This is such a great answer. I have deep respect for your self-awareness and insight. The road you travelled was worth it.

KickFriedasCoffin t1_jee6zkk wrote on March 31, 2023 at 11:23 AM

I had a similar experience in my 20s, then one day the thought of "the people telling you these things care about you and wouldn't make this up to hurt you" popped into my mind and it was a huge turning point.

"Consider the source" has a negative connotation usually, but really works both ways.