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duende_master t1_j5osqft wrote

LPT: whenever someone says "be normal" or "dont be weird" they mean "read the room" or "this thing youre doing is making me/people uncomfortable" or "youre doing this the wrong way", not "let go of your entire personality and act exactly like other people".

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jodancz t1_j5p9vwe wrote

the true lpt is always in the comments

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dr_aux757 t1_j5pe8yw wrote

It's becoming a game for me. Usually there's one comment that rings better than the op's.

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PandaBonium t1_j5qhi3h wrote

To quote Abed. "When you really know who you are and what you like about yourself, changing for other people isn't such a big deal."

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cyan_reynolds t1_j5rm3gg wrote

Since I heard this way back when it's what I aspire to be.

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BusydaydreamerA137 t1_j5rx4ss wrote

Not always. Once I was told I was weird for wearing a hair clip that made it look like a I had streaks in my hair and leg warmers.

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khaosavz t1_j5qj8oy wrote

Sure, but what is stopping them to saying exactly what they mean? The best way to communicate that you are uncomfortable with my behavior or if I'm not reading the room is to say exactly that to me. Not make me the outgroup by calling me weird. Oh, and no, they aren't trying to spare my feelings.

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Shiva_LSD t1_j5penvf wrote

Um what? That may be the case sometimes but not 100% of the time. Im high energy and when people don't like that Im not slowing down.

Bunch of boring folks down voting lol

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dontBatool t1_j5pjnc4 wrote

> "read the room" or "this thing youre doing is making me/people uncomfortable" or "youre doing this the wrong way"

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Shiva_LSD t1_j5pq1o2 wrote

Again, thats true sometimes but people suck. I'm gonna be my weird self and if it makes people uncomfortable thats on them.

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Tesseracting_ t1_j5ptuy9 wrote

Actually not how social interaction works.

Are they comfortable with that?

Are they a captive audience while you are making them uncomfortable for reasons out of their control?

You saying I’ll be how I want totally disregards that the other person is meeting you on an agreed social interaction level but you are disrespecting that, in this case purposefully. There is PLENTY of room to be yourself.

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Shiva_LSD t1_j5q0qih wrote

Im not being disrespectful by being myself. Pretty interesting that I'm being told how to socialize considering I've learned the social skills to have quite a large group of loving friends. My quirky excitable self is what has attracted such wonderful people in my life. Thanks for the advice, but if it ain't broken I ain't fixing it.

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Tesseracting_ t1_j5qcjay wrote

Okie dokie.

Notice I never once said don’t be yourself.

Also loving friends know you well, right? Not quite what we were talking about.

Get real.

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highlife1 t1_j5si7v3 wrote

This is an example of read the room, you just off as a tool

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4levelclover t1_j5nl78y wrote

My neighbor’s weird-ass yelling is kind of a drag though

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CatNipDealer013 t1_j5objmk wrote

Mine stoped yelling when I started to imitate him really loud. Now he still avoids eye contact.

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Bapaotje t1_j5o6rdk wrote

Dont kill the cringe within yourself. Kill the part that cringes.

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karrenl t1_j5n3jul wrote

If you're not weird, you are boring

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Particular_Special70 t1_j5obamd wrote

This is the idea I've embraced as I've gotten older. Being just like everyone else? Borrrringggggg. I'ma be weird and probably have a lot more fun than the conformists as I age. 😉

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pw7090 t1_j5q3a6z wrote

People think I'm weird or assume I'm weird because I'm boring.

Nah man, I'm really just that boring.

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Phreefuk t1_j5p9vsw wrote

And if everyone is weird then that means we're all just normal again

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intensive-porpoise t1_j5q0flj wrote

Everyone tells me they're crazy. Well crazy people aren't so fucking boring.

-B. Schwartzenbach

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baby_blue_eyes t1_j5ojpax wrote

A Famous Saying: Everyone is normal - until you get to know them.

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AWildWillis t1_j5oq54q wrote

A great Irish man recently told me "those that matter, don't mind, and those that mind, don't matter" The people that should matter to you, won't mind your strange proclivities and eccentricities. A beautifully simple phrase to me.

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Champlainmeri t1_j5np7l2 wrote

I mean, that's where the spice of life lies. What triggers our favorite colors? Or our favorite board game, book, magazine or TV show? Stay Weird.

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GTFOakaFOD t1_j5pgwts wrote

I have taught my children to embrace the good weird and report the bad weird.

So far it's working for us. No reports have been made in 14 years.

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KTcat94 t1_j5og13o wrote

I tell my students that life is too short to be normal. But sometimes you have to find people who are the same brand of weird as you before you can let it all out, lol.

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CollinUrshit t1_j5npndw wrote

Any advice for helping a weird & shy little boy keep his weirdness when entering school age? I’m really worried he’ll be peer pressured into conformity.

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Shiva_LSD t1_j5pess4 wrote

Everybody's Crazy - Formidable Vegetables (Father Funk Remix) always helps remind me to stay weird

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ziggestorm99 t1_j5ogu62 wrote

Those that hate you for being weird/yourselves are either inexperienced/narrow minded or they were themselves shit on for being weird once and internalized the criticism, which is sadder imo

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TimHortonsMagician t1_j5ph2yg wrote

I can assure you, not everyone is weird. Some people just don't have much going on in the personality department.

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WhiteHawk93 t1_j5pvhi5 wrote

They could just not be showing you their weirdness, but if not I guess that lack of personality is pretty weird in itself.

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RunInRunOn t1_j5qgd68 wrote

Some people are weird, but would rather seem like they have no personality than admit to being weird

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ManiacMedic t1_j5pgci7 wrote

The only normal people you know are the ones you don't know well enough.

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graablikk t1_j5pjcez wrote

Yeeeah.. but also don't be inconsiderate to others about your behaviour. What you percive as a weirdness may just be annoying to others and making them uncomfortable.

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_Weyland_ t1_j5o36jr wrote

But what if she doesn't like pizza AND doesn't like pasta? How can I embrace that?

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Shiva_LSD t1_j5pexnz wrote

We are talking about people that are weird, not people that are wrong.

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doublegalpcup t1_j5okn5i wrote

I agree, everyone is unique and has their own quirks and interests that make them "weird" in one way or another. Embracing your individuality and what brings you joy is important for self-acceptance and happiness. And it's true that people who judge others for being different may have their own insecurities or issues to work through.

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Scr0tat0 t1_j5p9hk3 wrote

If everybody's weird, then nobody is.

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yoshipug t1_j5phblg wrote

The weirdness is the originality. It’s the spice of life. Without it, life would be unbearable.

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markth_wi t1_j5philf wrote

Dating became FAR more fun when I heard the old line "The odds are good, when you realize the goods are odd."

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poopgrouper t1_j5pk3bf wrote

Some pedophile read this and thought, "yeah!"

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T4ke t1_j5ptrzd wrote

If your weirdness infringes on the liberty and enjoyment of others though. Please stop with it immediately.

Every time I read this kind of "encouragement" I have to think: "Oh great! Finally, someone who gets it! Let's go out and abduct some people to turn them into my genetically enhanced cat girls with which I gonna take over the world!"

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fat3willwin t1_j5pu4fv wrote

IF you are not actively or passively harming anyone with your weirdness (physical, mental, or emotionally) then your weirdness is perfectly fine.

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#StayWeird

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oliverkloezoff t1_j5p2f7w wrote

Weird is subjective.
I like weird. Too boring without weirdos.

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redpiano82991 t1_j5p6fde wrote

I once met a guy who wasn't weird. He was just completely normal in every way. It creeped me out.

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mperklin t1_j5paae8 wrote

A little bit of weird is a lot of fun

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montemanm1 t1_j5plv9m wrote

To restate:

EVERYONE IS WEIRD! NOT JUST YOU!

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ScenicPineapple t1_j5pmyzs wrote

I've always been a weirdo and i embrace it all the time. I'm more of a nerd and have knowledge on way too many things, so that makes me weird. I consider it a good weird.

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De_Greed t1_j5psfki wrote

Everyone is weird or boring*

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Taste_of_Natatouille t1_j5pug3v wrote

Main character, "Everyone at school thinks I'm a freak.I just want to be normal."

Sassy old grandpa before he dies in a later scene, "Being normal is over rated."

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pdxb3 t1_j5q35f3 wrote

The kind of people that make fun of your weirdness are usually the ones who also get unreasonably excited or upset about someone doing something with a leather ball.

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S_Baime t1_j5qlk1t wrote

Just stopped in to agree. Embrace what makes you different. My partner and I call ourselves the Abby Normals .

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autotelica t1_j5r0z6v wrote

It is OK to be weird. But don't make weirdness your personality.

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xhunza t1_j5r5tm0 wrote

Unless youre a pedo or some shit, don't embrace that.

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gwaydms t1_j5rdkd2 wrote

In the words of the great philosopher Willie Hugh Nelson, "Well, I may not be normal, but nobody is."

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1957horses t1_j5rh33p wrote

No days there is no norm. You do you as long as it doesn't hurt anyone or against the law.

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Happy_Muscle t1_j5tbtkz wrote

Not me. I’m the most normal person there is.

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ocelot-gazebo t1_j5thlhi wrote

The only normal people are people you don't know well.

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