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keepthetips t1_j5zsgqu wrote

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DeusGiggity t1_j5zwket wrote

I notice this all the time, especially in social settings, but I have yet to figure out a way to point it out without damaging my own reputation with whichever group we're in.

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doctorhino t1_j5zz2sc wrote

Someone says whenever at work about a meeting and I just schedule it around my own time. Works fine for me.

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gellenburg t1_j601e3w wrote

"My calendar is open and up-to-date, feel free to schedule some time that works for both of us."

And if they're not inside my Company?

"Here's the link to my Calendar. Feel free to find some time that's convenient."

If your Company uses Microsoft 365, Outlook Web will give you a public link to the free/busy view of your Calendar that you can share. I have it in my Email signature.

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borisslovechild t1_j602s1x wrote

Think that this is a bit of stretch. If Keanu Reeves wanted me to pitch my latest script idea to him in person, I would postpone my open heart surgery. so yeah, 'whenever'.

When I hear the word evasive being bandied about, it implies dishonesty of some kind. Pretty sure that's really not the case.

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Panasaurus t1_j607e4e wrote

A boomer wrote this, had to, or someone who thinks they're the main character. Saying " whenever" opens the options for the person scheduling and 9 times out of 10, they're going to reply when it works for them. It isn't evasive or an affront to your questioning. Nay, tis but a normal reply when you've got nothing scheduled for a fortnight.

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Karnezar t1_j60bcnw wrote

When I give a time, EVEN IF I SAY "but whenever works" THEY ASSUME IT'S MY ONLY availability.

And if I give multiple availabilities, they say, "i only need you for an hour."

And eventually they give me a time...but it's always after the fact.

I can't win.

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TheTruthenatorer t1_j60ewr4 wrote

Replying to DeusGiggity (#1,511,403)

If they say "whenever," then just pick a time that works best for you...seems pretty easy to deal with. The other person is letting you schedule whatever you're doing whenever you want. Why would you be upset about that?

If someone says "whenever" and then keeps shutting down your suggestions because they're busy, then they're a douche but just saying, "whenever" because you have an open schedule is absolutely fine.

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Panasaurus t1_j60ik4w wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#1,513,721)

Nah m8, you're not a boomer, I'm close in age, you're just a main character in your own show. You're getting way too excited. You need to work on your replies. If someone says to you "whenever" you should already have "12 noon Monday, 9am wednesday, thursday at 2pm" or "whenever" you are available ready to go. How do you know the person isn't just trying to be polite and work around your schedule? I just expect people not to want to commit so when I get the whenever, I've already got my answer locked and loaded. Takes the frustration out. If someone ever tells me to stop by any time, unless it's family, I just wouldn't go because you know, I mean you know deep down, they're not trying to be pinned down with whatever it is you're selling. Time is money as they say, so why waste it on a "stop by any time", when you could be scheduling all the "whenever's"? Sales 101 m8, know the answer to all the questions, lead the customer to your desired result, profit?

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WastelandHound t1_j60jakj wrote

If you are the one suggesting a meeting, you are the one responsible for coming up with a time, or at least options.

If you ask someone if they want to meet without offering options, you're not only putting the burden of a meeting on them, you're putting the burden of finding a time on them.

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