Submitted by MysticalTeamMember t3_yhzptb in Maine
My girlfriend grew up out of state under a very strict JW family, and never has been trick or treating and she is so excited. I’m happy to be able to bring her for her first time out. Do you guys think anyone will get in a tiffy over this?
Thank you guys!!
I'd think you're weird, but I'd give you candy. And I wouldn't ask for any explanation.
That's a sweet thing to do for your girl.
Don't worry about people getting upset. The only thing they can do is not give you candy. If that happens, hug your girl, have a giggle about it and head to the next house.
Even though I'm a grumpy old bastard this made me smile.
No they dont buy candy for adults
Sorry she missed that joy, but don’t use that you up your choad level….
Someone always gets in a tiffy about something. I’d say go for it anyway but expect some sour faces. Probably fewer depending on how awesome your costumes are.
If you or she are nervous about potential social awkwardness, it’s just as much fun to dress up and give out candy. And putting on a show for the kids is generally more socially accepted. So you might think about grabbing a couple bags of candy for handing out, just as a backup plan in case trick or treating doesn’t turn out to be fun.
Enjoy!
That’s so nice of you to do for her! I’ve always given out candy to everyone regardless of age. :) (I don’t live in Maine anymore but my family still does and my mom is an equal opportunity candy giver as well! CANDY FOR ALL!!)
I think it’s great of you, and this is an exceptional circumstance. It’s role-play day: if you’re really concerned, costume and mask so it -could- be a large child. Just have fun with it, and screw any boo-birds
Wear a costume and have fun. No costume no candy!
It seems like old-timers tend to be more strict about the kids only role. Most people thought I doubt would care. Have fun and happy Halloween.
It’s not weird! Have fun and enjoy. My workplace hands out candy and I always remind adults to take some too! Costume or not!
You’re right. This is the most accurate thing Iv read on this subreddit all year. “Someone always gets in a tiffy”
Have fun! I think. You should be prepared with something fun in return, some kind of song or dance or skit or maybe gift candy back. And maybe a two second explanation 'This is my first year ever, I always wanted to try!' If a crew of 20+ year olds showed up, they'd totally get candy, but it'd go way better if I laughed and had fun as I closed the door.
Maybe you don't. Any leftovers are MINE.
Some might, but fuck ‘em. If more people acted this way instead of getting blackout at parties, it might be better for all of us. Enjoy!
If you are truly worried/nervous, be sure the costume had a full face mask or other way of hiding your true age. But anyone with a costume would get candy from me.
I generally get so few kids at my door, I'd welcome some adults trying to have some fun.
The most I have ever had is 8.
Have fun, show her a good time. With age, maybe you will appreciate getting pennies or pencils more.
She’s either gonna get a lot of candy or not as much, either way though if you’re gonna give her the full experience you have to check all of it and take your tax!
I would totally give candy out to anyone in a costume, but you might get some mean people who aren't cool with it.
As long as you're both ok with that possibility, go for it
Happy Halloween!
Most people no longer care. If someone shows up at my door with a costume (or without , some people can't afford much!) and says Trick or Treat, they get candy. End of. There's worse things they could be getting up to instead.
Oh don't be such a sour puss.
People here are being too nice.
Honestly, once you hit 13, begging for candy from strangers is a bit off putting. Buy your own candy if you want candy. I buy candy for the little kids - because it’s fun seeing all the neighborhood kids dressed up s whatever they’re in to - not so a 20-something can try to recapture their youth.
Go to a Halloween party, or set up a trunk at a trunk-or-treat. There’s lots of adult activities tonight. Leave the kid stuff to the kids.
Well said!!!
Everyone gets candy!!!
Show me on this costumed doll where someone hurt you.
I’ve always maintained that if you went to the trouble to dress up and you are courteous, I’ll give anyone candy!
Have a stash of candy she likes, so you can give her one if someone makes a stink about it.
If you do decent costumes with some makeup, It’ll be hard to tell if you’re adults or teenagers. Someone is bound to be annoyed but they’ll probably still give her candy
I'm not "hurt", but it's definitely off putting when adults force themselves into activities that are clearly meant for children. Pretending it's not isn't going to do anyone any favors.
Trick-or-treating, easter egg hunts, and "sit in santa's lap" are all pretty clearly designed for specifically for kids.
There's a million parties tonight specifically planned for adults. Go to one of those.
I live in Lincoln if you guys showed up I'd hand you full size bars like everyone else lol. I give them to adults with their kids too. This world is so full of negativity. I say just do it.
If you guys are in the Wiscasset area PM me. She can have a hand full of our candy!
Adults in costumes get candy at our house
Lol. Whatever grandpa. There’s no rules to it so screw off.
If I wanna go trick or treating I’m going and you can’t say no.
You maybe. I buy candy for whoever wants to come have some.
i suppose it’s a bit personal BUT i feel like Mainers would really get a kick out of some sort of “former JW” note on the costume. like, not that i think you need to explain yourself at all, but given the circumstances it seems like it would be a fun not-so-tongue-in-cheek addition. like if you taped it on her back so they saw it as y’all walked away….i would remember that for a while if two older-looking people came up to my door and acted normal about it, and then as they were walking away i saw that note
I’ve thought about how I’d make it less weird to go trick or treating as an adult and I came up with a plan to donate the candy to a kids’ charity or foster homes. If you put a label on your container/bag that this candy is going to needy kids, it’s a lot less weird… admirable even. And then you get to feel good again the next day when you drop it off for the families who couldn’t go trick or treating!
That is a great idea!!!
I never said there are "rules" per say, but there's definitely a social convention that it's for kids. The "last year of trick-or-treating" is even a pretty common trope in coming of age halloween stories.
If you - as an adult - want to walk around and beg your neighbors for candy, go nuts. Most of them will probably give you some candy. A lot of them would probably try to find you something even if it wasn't halloween. People are nice like that.
Just don't pretend it's normal, socially acceptable behavior.
Never said "can't". Only meant to imply "shouldn't".
You’re the minority in this post. Nobody cares but you and a couple others. You seem to be the problem here. You also have a very weird definition of “beg.” You need to mind your own fuckin business if you’re gonna say people are “begging for candy.” Get your head out of your ass.
This might be a bit weird but have her dress up like a JW that would be a comedy skit all it’s own!
I get so few trick or treaters that I’ll give anyone candy. Just happy to see people enjoying the spirit of the holiday.
As long as you look like you're having fun and you have a good costume on, I wouldn't care.
Cmon down to New Hampshire, I only give full size candy bars at my door.
Its all about attitude for me. A 23F, in costume, ecstatic to try trick-or-treating, can get any candy she wants from this house.
Do either of you have any younger siblings/cousins/friends with kids you could go with? If your goal is to treat her to the experience and isn’t about just the candy, it might even more fun (and less awkward) this way.
If you’re 21+, you get a beer/Truly and candy at my house.
Seriously. Trick or treating should know no age boundary.
I’m 21 myself, I forgot to include it in the post. Thank you for the comment :)
I’m sure some of the adult t or t get a kick from that haha.
Yes! She has 4 younger siblings. I’m sure they would love to come along :)
“It’s not normal, socially acceptable behavior”
Wonder what else you say that about?
Absolutely delighted with any and all trick or treaters than cone to my door. One of my first dates with my now husband was trick or treating. We were both 21 at the time. We had a blast!
So much more healthy to fill up your body with literal poison surrounded by a bunch of people you don’t know from Adam. Yeah.
Get the stick out of your ass.
Grow the fuck up.
Pay taxes and vote too ...
You can be covered and shaving cream and rotten eggs I’ll hook you up.
Yes, it's insane and bizzare that a grown adult is going to show up at people's houses in costume asking for candy, on a day that is just for 8yo children.
I’m giving out trick or trade Pokémon packs and 3-musketeers if anyone ends up showing up in costume that’ll be what they get.
You know you're not required to drink at parties right? And, if you go with friends, you're not surrounded by strangers.
Kind of like... every other night of the year.
The world would be better off if sticks in the mud like you weren’t here to spoil innocent fun. Fuck off with your boomer energy.
1: Adults waiting in line to sit in Santa's lap at the mall
2: Adults participating in easter egg hunts
3: Adults loitering around playgrounds without kids
Pretty much any situation where adults are participating in activities designed for children. Don't try to turn it into something it's not.
The first and third are uncomfortable for children/others, but an Easter egg hunt is usually a private event, so DOUBLE fuck you for judging people for how they have fun—often as a family—in their in their own time.
Well, that's reddit for ya..
Anecdotally, most of the other adults I know who spend their money to decorate their houses and buy candy for the neighborhood kids, get mildly annoyed by other adults adults horning in on the festivities and begging for candy.
lol, okay..
Make her a little sign that says "This is my first time EVER trick or treating, sorry I'm late"
I’d recommend finding a place for anyone. When I was 12 my friends and I went out and a few people in our neighborhood told us we were too old. They were refusing to give kids they thought were too old candy. My friends and I didn’t do it, but they were cleaning the eggs off of their house on November 1st.
This would be weird if you were both 40. As you're not you should be fine!
I think that’s the sweetest thing !!
That depends...is she under 5'5''?
I half-kid lol. I don't think anyone would mind. Mainers are too laid-back to give a shit about a 25-year-old trick-or-treating.
And really, who cares about what people think? The art of not giving a fuck is valuable. Learn it, and live by it.
As another grumpy old bastard, I endorse this sentiment.
Not a Boomer. Just a guy in his 30's that doesn't feel the need to buy candy for other adults.
But go ahead and beg for candy - the world needs bagars too. If you come around, I'll probably even throw you a couple tootsie rolls. But, I do reserve the full size bars for the kids.
There was a thread I came across on Reddit yesterday that asked about this very thing, and a lot of people didn't mind adults trick-or-treating that didn't have kids.
Quit gatekeeping Halloween. The woman in the OP has never been trick-or-treating before. Show some sympathy and take the stick out of your anus instead of being judgmental just because she's 23 and going trick-or-treating.
I’m staying home to give out candy, too. I’m just calling you a twatwaffle for being a dick to adults who want to have harmless fun.
As long as you are wearing costumes... I'm happy to hand out candy. I don't even 'require' costumes for the little ones because I know sometimes they have a hard time with them. But anyone who takes the time to dress up and walk around is more than welcome to candy.
If anyone does give you a hard time... just be upfront. She didn't get to T or T as a child. I can't imagine anyone being an asshole after that.
Adults at playgrounds without kids?
Lmao, fuck your feelings, if I want to swing on the swingset at 24 then I can and I will. Lots of teens and adults who don't have kids do it.
So judgmental.
I fully support this wholesome fun! Honestly just happy to see people keeping trick-or-treating alive when so many trunk-or-treat and parking lot events are killing it.
If you are in costume and in the spirit then go for it! I say better out getting candy then drinking at a bar
He asked the question “would anyone care” the correct answer is “yeah; a fair number of people will”.
Not like it’s a moral issue. But pretending is totally normal is just setting them up for a nasty surprise when people are bothered.
As long as you both have good costumes, I'd give you a candy bar.
The vicarious enjoyment is what keeps adults handing the candy out.
some ppl will undoubtedly care. I was a very tall kid and was getting turned away at like 12. some people just don't have the same spirit for fun 🙃
Maybe you're just projecting. But Mainers aren't really like that. Generally, we're a laid-back bunch. If OP thought it was normal and accepted, then they wouldn't be asking this question. Thought logic.
Heck no! Head over our way!!!! We give candy to anyone who asks. Making up for a misspent youth with parent who believed to old sugar adhd myths!
This is the bonus to having kids or volunteering to with relatives and their kids trick or treating as an additional wrangler. My brother enjoyed going out with my kiddo and I and would get all dressed up. He was offered candy at a lot of places for his costume; he declined as we were in a popular area and he didn't want to take from the kids.
Right?! Great costumes cost way more than a few pieces of candy.
I don’t care what age someone is, if they show up in costume, they get candy.
They don’t have to say a word; free candy. It’s free candy day and everyone should get some!
Mainers aren’t like what? Bothered by adults asking for candy you bought for kids?
I’ve been here my whole life, and all my neighbors and friends have as well. I was concerned that I was actually wrong and ran in informal poll at lunch. 10/10 of my coworkers said it’s definitely [at least] mildly annoying. They were split on whether they'd actually give them candy or tell them to go away.
I don't care if your 15, 55, or 85, you come to my door in a costume (or even not) on Halloween, you get candy! Candy for all, Halloween is fun & everyone likes fun!
I didn’t say they don’t. Lots of people also pick their noses/asses in public. People doing something isn’t a great test of whether it’s something that is likely to bother people.
I didn’t say that it’s illegal or even morally “wrong”. It’s just not normal - and liable to make people take critical notice.
You do you though. I’ve gotta finish getting my house ready for tonight. Still need to patch one of the inflatables, and buy another box of candy bars - I forgot to get a dairy free option.
Maybe I’ll even get some hard candies for any adults that show up..
As a kid my little sister & I were asked where we lived. My sister told them the name of the street, the little old lady handing out pennies in her swanky house, slammed the door in the faces of a 10yr old and a 5 yr old. I knocked again & she yelled at me saying she was sick of kids from other towns coming in, I said that's the name of the road we live on in this town. I hope she never forget the look on my sister's face. Some people truly are forever tiffy. Their loss in life, Joy thieves have a special place in hell waiting for them. Go out, smile, be happy have a few hours that you will never forget...if someone gives you a hard time, give them a piece of candy from your bag & a hug!! Happy Halloween after all 🎃
Depends on the costume- if its kid friendly then sure.
They can dress up and have fun all they want.
But if they expect me to spend my money to buy them a candy bar for doing it, they can go right ahead and pound sand.
I only budget like $200 on candy (~200 candy bars if you buy in bulk), so I generally run out at some point in the night. So that also means every “adult” that got one would be a little kid who didn’t.
lmao, that’s just dumb. I spent five dollars on bulk candy and it was enough to fill two giant bowls that should more than last the night. If you’re spending that much on candy just on Halloween night, then either you’re one of the most popular Halloween houses in the whole state or you’re terrible at budgeting.
Twix bars - pack of 36 is like $30 on amazon - most other candy bars are about the same. I have to grab some skittles this afternoon because of all the dairy allergies - maybe they'll be cheaper at Sam's, but i expect I'm going to be paying more than $1/bag.
The neighborhood kids are always excited for the full size bars. So, I buy them for the kids. Even kids from other areas are cool. Really any kid is welcome - even kids without costumes.
The last time my bestie went trick or treating she took her brother and some friends. Brother was 17 and this guy answered the door "youre too old, just go and GET LAID. Go drinking with the rest of your friends" my friends brother was very confused and it was a sad awkward time :/ I'd be absolutely excited to give you candy tho, my Nana always used to say "youre never too old for trick or treating" (she said this when she was in her fifties)
Which neighborhood are you at? (/s, if it's not obvious--not trying to be a creep)
What are you guys going to go as?
In my late teens I wanted to be an adult, and resented it when mom made me take my younger sibling trick or treating. Most houses we went to would offer or even insist that I take candy even though I had no costume or bag to put it in.
These days when I take my own kids out there seem to be more and more older kids out. I wish I had still enjoyed it at their age.
I wholeheartedly encourage you and your SO to go out. Everyone should have the privilege to experience Halloween to the fullest. You might run into a Karen or two that disapproves, but f them. Remember you are not the problem, they are. They're the sort of person that will find some reason to look down on you no matter what. Don't let them spoil the fun!
They've got the doorbell ringing skills down pat already.
Adults are fine with mini Snickers and Kit-Kats, thank you. We all have an inner child who loves Halloween and loves candy but you seem to be an exception. Do I pity you...
Aha...sure. r/thathappened to all of this post. You're feeling so threatened by being wrong that you're resorting to lying? That's kinda sad.
But also yes, that is exactly what I mean. Mainers aren't usually bothered by adults who don't have kids with them going trick-or-treating and getting candy. Hell, I stopped trick-or-treating after 15, and when I did go, I'd see adults and high schoolers go trick-or-treating in costumes all the time in addition to kids. Some of them got candy, even. Not all, but some.
I would just give candy if she’s in a costume. I think a lot of folks don’t wanna make a big deal because you never know someone is special needs, etc. You really risk making a huge ass of yourself if you care that much about handing out candy
We'd give candy it's Halloween everyone doing things for fun is welcome
Wear a costume, get candy! I hope you have tons of fun!
Who cares what anyone else may think. Get dressed up, go out and have a wonderful time tonight.
If I didn't live on a private posted road I'd take some trick or treaters today. I've never had one since I've moved across my home town
If anyone cares, you high five your girlfriend and congratulate her for getting through her first Halloween asshole experience, and then you show her how to use TP and eggs.
Nobody comes to my door (rural area) so I would be thrilled if anyone, adult or kid, came trick or treating at my door, as long as they’re in costume.
Mr & Mrs. Scream!
Go get that candy!!!
My daughter was 5-8 in 7th grade and went out trick or treating.
Meh, I think it’s sweet. If she wears a costume and comes to my door on Halloween I’d give her candy.
She’d get Top Ramen from me.
I wish more adults would trick or treat personally
Who cares? Just go.
why not give out candy instead?
If I were going to lie I’d probably make up something a bit more grandiose than asking a few people at lunch. I’m honestly mystified at the disconnect between my entire life experience, and this thread. I’ve been making fun of teens/adults trick or treating since I was a teen. Aside from the developmentally disabled, I’ve never heard anyone mention it other than to complain.
But at the end of the day, I don’t particularly care what you believe. Go beg other adults for the candy they bought to give away to children, or whatever other little thing your heart desires.
Just know that a significant percentage of other adults will be judging you for it.
You do you.
Edit: this is assuming you’re not going with kids. Adults dressing up while accompanying kids is totally normal. The years I bring the kids out I totally dress up.
I’m wearing a home made costume my mom made in the 70’s or early 80’s and want you to know she went trick or treating as much as she could until she was too sick to do so. She usually brought other people’s children after I grew up but she still made it out as often as she could . I hope you went and enjoyed yourself and I wish you were in my community because I’d also give you a hug.
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Everyone in costume get candy at my door.