half-witigator t1_iuhwj58 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 1:44 PM

Reply to comment by Mustang46L in Someone still remembers you as an asshole for something you probably don't even remember doing. by lucius789

Tbh your attitude of “I was drunk, it’s just a hat, I apologized, it’s nbd and what do you want from me?” is probably not winning you any friends. Did you sincerely apologize? Because I don’t think you can do that unless you actually feel bad, which you clearly do not. Maybe he’s unreasonable and grieving but based on your retelling he hates you, for something you did, and you don’t seem all that concerned. Idk you might be the asshole here.

You’re probably almost 50 too. Maybe stop getting black out drunk and bullying the bereaved.

JarasM t1_iuhymyp wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:00 PM

How can he sincerely apologize for something he himself doesn't remember and apparently the other party couldn't explain well themselves? If I remembered being an asshole to somebody I'd feel bad and apologize profusely because I am a nonconfrontational person that is terrified of the thought of someone thinking badly of me, but if I learned of an event that is simply described as offensive which I don't remember, I too would just say something shallow like "I'm sorry if I offended you somehow".

Bald_Sasquach t1_iuhxosy wrote on October 31, 2022 at 1:53 PM

Getting black out drunk and bullying the bereaved is all I have left :'(

Mustang46L t1_iuhydnj wrote on October 31, 2022 at 1:58 PM

When he showed up on vacation and explained what happened (I sincerely didn't remember it, which to me speaks volumes about how unintentional it was), I apologized sincerely.. multiple times. It was pretty clear he was uninterested in any type of apology, assumed I was an asshole, and just wanted to ensure that everyone on vacation with me knew that he didn't like me or want me to be around. He literally told me about 20x it was his deceased father's hat like it was something I SHOULD have known.

Yes, I'm in my 40s. No, I didn't get blackout drunk I just don't remember this ridiculous conversation. When I drink I talk a lot, not blackout.

BertieTheBrain t1_iui5r30 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:51 PM

>I just don't remember this ridiculous conversation. When I drink I talk a lot, not blackout.

You're still hand waving away your actions with the drunk defense. You're still responsible for your actions even if you don't remember them.

It's frankly, not believable that you were sincere in your apology with how hard you try to wave it off with being drunk or that you don't remember. Along with other descriptions about how you're happy you're not close to the guy while throwing shade about him saying he whines and is ignorant in your following posts.

Obviously going against the crowd here, but I don't find it believable that you sincerely apologized.

Mustang46L t1_iui5xez wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:52 PM

That's okay. You're entitled to that opinion. Cheers.

BertieTheBrain t1_iui6au1 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:55 PM

Have a good one. 👍

BertieTheBrain t1_iuhyxv5 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:02 PM

>“I was drunk, it’s just a hat, I apologized, it’s nbd and what do you want from me?” is probably not winning you any friends. Did you sincerely apologize?

This was glaringly obvious to me. Seems like OP is an ass. "I was drunk my bad, that lets me be a shit person and hand wave away shitty actions I did"