lgmringo t1_iw76p0a wrote
Reply to comment by NewrytStarcommander in I was robbed by a group of children :/ by ElFello93
They're also scary because you're limited in your ability to fight back or fight it off. I've had groups of young boys say filthy things to me, abcs it always makes me really uncomfortable. Not just because of the sexual harassment itself, but what am I going to do? An adult white woman calling the cops on or chastising a group of Black boys? That's not a great idea... so you just end up letting them say whatever.
It's relevant bc while it's not violent per se, it normalizes invading boundaries and dehumanization.
People think I'm nuts, but groups of preteen and teen boys make me so uncomfortable.
JohnBarleyCorn2 t1_iw7vmm9 wrote
> An adult white woman calling the cops on or chastising a group of Black boys? That's not a great idea... so you just end up letting them say whatever.
Jesus christ...they've really done a number on you. Why would you think this way? You are a human, not a sub-human lower caste. Your melanin content is irrelevant. You don't EVER have to put up with that shit. The fact people are upvoting you...what have we been reduced to? Good lord.
myhatwhatapicnic t1_iw80avl wrote
Thank you. Good grief.
aliyoh t1_iw81r13 wrote
Hmm I wonder… police… young black men… is there any reason why someone may be worried that interaction could go south…?
Like, I’m also a white woman and I agree with the previous commenter. I’m going to always hesitate to call the police, especially on young black men, when we know that someone could end up being killed. Yeah, street harassment is terrible and makes women feel unsafe. But even if the risk is small, I don’t want to be the reason someone ends up dead for a situation I can get out of on my own. And I’m mostly talking about petty things, like street harassment, vandalism, noise complaints, things that aren’t life or death. There are absolutely situations where I would call the police, but I think it’s A Good Thing Actually for white people to think for a couple seconds about the ramifications it can have on others before doing so.
JohnBarleyCorn2 t1_iw826p6 wrote
No. Just stop. You don't have to put up with sexual harassment from anybody. Its not ok. If someone is harassing you, then they need to be stopped.
> A Good Thing Actually for white people
to be able to walk down the street without being made to feel violated and unsafe.
You are wrong and I hope you gain the confidence to love yourself enough to not let ANYone do this to you, regardless of what color they are.
As the father of young daughters, it makes me so..so sad to see that young women would rather suffer harassment than report a crime. I hope I'm able to instill enough self-confidence and self-respect in my daughters that they would never take this fatalistic, nihilistic view of themselves.
onlythehappiests t1_iw8ahqi wrote
This is not a self-esteem issue. It’s not that women would rather suffer harassment than report a crime because we feel like we don’t deserve to not be hassled. It’s that in this world/city that we live in today, there’s a very real possibility that calling the cops on black men or boys may result in someone dying and won’t solve the problem anyway.
I agree that it’s sad and awful and not at all okay, but unfortunately these are the things that people weigh. I think there is plenty of evidence that law enforcement isn’t firing on all cylinders here. And I think you know that and I don’t really get why women are being downvoted for acknowledging this problem.
Appropriate-Lab-5015 t1_iw85lk0 wrote
Young daughters, you say? You'll love Bel Air or Ellicott City. Don't let your kids grow up around violence
YesIDoBlowCops t1_iw7t1vl wrote
You are really drinking the kool aid if you are hesitating to call the police or take action because of race. You are the adult in the situation and it is incumbent upon you to address the problem.
Appropriate-Lab-5015 t1_iw7v84b wrote
Yes but its Baltimore and even if the kids are caught, there won't be any consequence
[deleted] t1_iw7j3iw wrote
> An adult white woman calling the cops on or chastising a group of Black boys? That's not a great idea
why not?
Appropriate-Lab-5015 t1_iw7v1y0 wrote
She isnt white, she's Latina (mexican)
Said so in the original post
EthanSayfo t1_iw8bel7 wrote
Can we all realize already that nationality and ethnic group in many parts of the world are not the same thing.
There are people in Mexico who are indigenous, and there are people in Mexico who are basically European.
The Americas are very large, and every single part of them from Canada and Alaska down to Chile and Argentina has this dynamic in play.
Let people pick their own ethnic (and other) labels.
Appropriate-Lab-5015 t1_iw8nceu wrote
She specifically said she's Latina.
EthanSayfo t1_iw8s1yn wrote
I know.
You seem to not realize that many people, including many Latinos/Latinas, consider this to be "white" by 2022 standards.
You know that Italians and Irish used to not be considered white?
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