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Mumbles76 t1_j9pvkgc wrote

Sorry, I have nothing to add to your search.

But I just wanted to ask (if you don't mind) do you feel your parents made the right decision? I ask because we were recently faced with a similar decision for our kids, and it's gut-wrenching. I know all ADHD isnt the same, but was yours pretty mild?

Just curious, feel free to PM me if you don't wish to reply here.

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Dajoey120 OP t1_j9qeev9 wrote

I think at a certain point it’s good to tell your kid or at least work on ways to build routines habbits for them to succeed. I was always better when i had structure. Always remember, adhd brains are just wired different doesn’t mean we are doomed at life.

I was good at school because i actually enjoyed it. With adhd you prioritize things that made you feel good. We are super highly emotional and gravitate towards things that make us feel good now which is why we constantly procrastinate/put things off towards later and really only do things we don’t like when we feel some sort of strong emotion attached to it.

I was a manager at a very big finance firm. One of my friends who has adhd is a very successful lawyer. Learning about the strengths/pitfalls of adhd will definitely help set your kid up for a brighter future if you deal with it now rather than later.

Just remember pills may help, but you need to learn the skills and i wish i learned them when i was in my teens rather than my 30s if that helps

Would suggest: your brains not broken by Tamara Ross. Will help you understand what it’s like to live with an adhd brain and go through some really good ways to deal with it. Can help you implement some good routines for your kids

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Mumbles76 t1_j9qgisl wrote

Thank you for your answer.

I don't know who downvote me, but I noticed any time you mention ADHD and medicine in the same sentence here, it's a hot-button topic that'll likely get you downvoted...

Anyhow, I appreciate your response. The decision to medicate weighs heavily on a parent and I appreciate you speaking about it (even in the form of a question) publicly.

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getjustin t1_j9rui62 wrote

Not OP but I was diagnosed as an adult but had all the signs since forever but got by in school but really struggled. I soooo wish I’d had the chance to properly learn clearly and not constantly feel like I’m behind while also not being a fucking wreck of lingering anxiety and social isolation.

Even if you decide to just start with therapy please consider it.

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BBbelugawhale t1_ja1h4i0 wrote

If it didn't negatively affect their life in school or social life, then meds aren't necessary. I excelled in school but like OP started my own business and started meds when needed as an adult. It has made a big difference for me in a positive way.

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