Let me clarify, this post does not mean that we are only interested in making gay friends. We are very social people and we know we will make friends, in general, anywhere we go. But it is typical human nature to have a subset of your friends being those who have shared similar life experiences and can connect at a much deeper level. I have friends with very different backgrounds than mine who I love and admire. But I know they have subsets of friends with which they share experiences that I will never understand and will therefore never be able to provide them with the safe space they need, and it doesn’t offend me that I’m excluded from their gatherings and activities every once in a while. When it comes to make other gay (or lgbtq in general) friends, location typically matter as we tend to congregate in certain areas, primary, as a defense mechanism to keep each other safe. If you think we live in a perfect society already where it’s all unicorns and rainbows, read this article

https://www.nytimes.com/2022/12/20/nyregion/drag-queen-story-hours-protests-nyc.html