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No_Match_7939 t1_j9vvau6 wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in Police: Husband shoots and kills wife in Monroeville, dies by apparent suicide after SWAT standoff by BecuzMDsaid

Your gonna get a lot of hate here but man being cheated on can make your react very terrible. Maybe these guns escalate something that should have been at worst am argument

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impy695 t1_j9vzcti wrote

Why would they get hate for saying infidelity could be the cause of violence? While rational and well adjusted people won't resort to violence, I don't think anyone would argue that it's not a very emotionally charged situation with a lot of anger.

Hell, I got into an argument once on reddit with someone who said it's normal and common for people to get violent after being cheated on.

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Valyrian_Kobolds t1_j9wb9fk wrote

I think the gut reaction to blame the murdered woman is the thing to be disgusted at here.

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masterofshadows t1_j9wd0th wrote

It doesn't have to be her who cheated. He could have been the cheater and got caught. It's just an emotionally charged time that leads violent people to be violent

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TangoZulu t1_j9w0oex wrote

Because gun nuts like to pretend that all "responsible" gun owners have iron-clad mental abilities and emotional control. It runs counter to their objective to admit that a legal gun owner could lose it in a moment of distress and use his legal firearm to murder someone.

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[deleted] t1_j9w11uw wrote

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impy695 t1_j9w1r1d wrote

There is a big step between this:

> I mean arguably it is normal by virtue of being common that people become irrational and unconsolably emotional

And this:

> and yes even violent

Most people don't become violent even when they become irrationally angry. People that do, need some form of anger management. Violence in response to cheating is not common or normal, even though irrational anger is common and normal.

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ElectroFlannelGore t1_j9w5yua wrote

>Most people don't become violent even when they become irrationally angry.

I'll have to find some stats on that

>People that do, need some form of anger management.

No disagreement here. I work with addicts. Lots of them out of prison or fresh from anger management classes.

>Violence in response to cheating is not common or normal, even though irrational anger is common and normal.

https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/56a7/e2b8f13215977c181fa691aab6265f19b93e.pdf

I dunno man. Searching "infidelity intimate partner violence" makes it seem pretty common. I mean as far as causes of intimate partner violence.

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impy695 t1_j9w7vn8 wrote

If you search for cases where cheating lead to violence, you're going to find a lot, but what you won't find is the vast majority that aren't newsworthy because no one goes crazy.

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masterofshadows t1_j9x3jl3 wrote

They literally linked you to a scholarly research paper on it. No not everyone who gets cheated on gets violent. But amongst the subset of people prone to violence, infidelity can be a major trigger for a violent act.

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impy695 t1_j9x4d57 wrote

Yeah, it doesn't have anything to do with the point they're trying to make.

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