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zoompixel t1_j47ipz5 wrote

Reply to comment by Wear-Fluid in Michigan mom accused of catfishing teen daughter bound over for trial by Rocket_AG

Sad for you, fight it forever. Some people really just look like people, but they're not really. A lot can go wrong in the process of making a human being, from your long, long line of ancestors contributing their genetic material, some of it iffy, to some of the psychologically destructive processes that are sometimes involved in becoming an adult, to the raising of a child. Hope your own kids, if you have or are planning to, will receive good parenting due to your self-awareness. How all the subsystems that shape a person manage to result in the good ones we know is a miracle in itself.

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Starlightriddlex t1_j47qe5o wrote

One of the best ways to combat generational abuse and break the cycle is to seek therapy prior to having children of your own. It's important to get an outside perspective of what normal should be. So many people fail to realize that just because you're doing a better job than your parents, it doesn't mean you're doing a "good" job.

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supercyberlurker t1_j48fua6 wrote

Yeah, I'm increasingly of the opinion that the venn diagram of abusers and 'parents who hate therapy' is just a circle.

The abusers hate therapy because it makes them look at themselves, and the people who hate therapy often tend to become abuser because they didn't deal with their own trauma and so just perpetuate the generational abuse.

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zoompixel t1_j4cqqt0 wrote

Can't agree more. It's hard to learn to start liking yourself, but it's an absolute prerequisite to being able to like others. The rewards are so well worth it, though.

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