IIAOPSW t1_j5mofk9 wrote
Reply to comment by mowotlarx in George Santos proposed to teen boyfriend while still married to a woman: report by [deleted]
Why tho. Is 8 years always too much? How about 40 and 48? If the latter is not ok, why not? Why does it matter? If the latter is ok, at what age do we accept people can start dating 8 years older/younger if they want? Why do we put the line of adulthood at 18 if we're not going to actually accept the autonomy of 18 year olds when they make decisions we happen to disapprove of?
mowotlarx t1_j5mxzdr wrote
Man you're really telling on yourself.
IIAOPSW t1_j5nlbdi wrote
I'm not. I honestly have no horse in this race. I couldn't imagine caring all that much about the age, race, orientation, or anything else about consenting adults. Really curious to see if people can put into words exactly why they feel it's "wrong". Is there any argument to be made for why it's wrong that doesnt imply an 18 year old women doesn't truly have adult personal agency, for there are certain relationships to which they are incapable of consenting and must be a victim? And if we accept the premise of 18 not being the real adult personhood cutoff, at what age does it happen? Is 48 and 40 OK? How about 38 and 30? If the rule of judgment is different from the rule of law, then what exactly is this rule being used to judge for which you and so many others feel so strongly that you imagine it universally felt? I want an explanation that isn't just cheap shot implying that anyone who doesn't agree must be a pedo. That's lazy Qanon their bullshit. Answer the question. Why exactly is it morally apprehensive, in your view, for an 18 and 26 year old to be in a relationship?
richarizard t1_j5mtpcv wrote
Yeah, this seems like a big ol' "duh" to me. I'll take the hypothetical even further. What if an 18 year old and 48 year old are in a consensual relationship that isn't based on power or manipulation and isn't hurting anybody else? Why should anyone else care? People in general just seem to have a hard time letting other people do what makes them happy when they wouldn't do it themselves.
mowotlarx t1_j5my0mc wrote
/s? I hope?
richarizard t1_j5opica wrote
Please see u/IIAOPSW's previous reply to you. I'll repeat a variation of their question: why exactly is it morally reprehensible, in your view, for an 18 year old to be in a relationship with another older adult? Again, assume the relationship isn't based on power or manipulation or anything like that—just two people with an age gap who swiped right on Tinder and met up.
mowotlarx t1_j5oqx4n wrote
>assume the relationship isn't based on power or manipulation or anything like that
Lol so we're just playing make believe. 🚩🚩🚩
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