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SumerianProgRocker t1_j2a1w5w wrote

Some traditions never change!

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sumpuran t1_j2acmy8 wrote

Luckily, in the past few decades, it has changed in quite a few countries. Corporal punishment is not as common as it once was.

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[deleted] t1_j2anjn9 wrote

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Titan_Explorer t1_j2anx3j wrote

Honestly, your attitude to upbringing is the more detrimental factor to humanity.

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pm_your_perky_bits t1_j2avwn3 wrote

You're welcome to your opinion. I was a child once, also.

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NightlyNate t1_j2bxhmg wrote

How is beatings a detriment to society? I don't see how not using tools of slave owners are detrimental?

Edit: I meant not using beatings aren't a detriment to society.

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pm_your_perky_bits t1_j2bxq52 wrote

Don't conflate "beating" with "discipline". You should never beat your children. For real, never.

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NightlyNate t1_j2byrda wrote

Is this sarcasm? Your comment said otherwise.

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legochemgrad t1_j2bg1h1 wrote

Tons of studies have shown that physical punishment is detrimental to childhood development and typically leaves mental scars. If you’ve ever had anger issues it’s likely caused by the fact that you saw your parents use that on you.

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pm_your_perky_bits t1_j2btpkv wrote

Studies performed, especially in social sciences, have always heavily leaned towards the biases of the person/s conducting the study. Everyone has their own perspectives. I, as well as many others throughout history, just happen to disagree with yours.

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NightlyNate t1_j2bwvc2 wrote

Well... that's why they aren't published in reputable journals. They also usually have evidence.

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legochemgrad t1_j2byjno wrote

I mean are you actually happy with being beat or are you just justifying it because you love you parents? If you dig down, I think you’d realize that beating kids only makes them into angry adults. Do you have as much emotional reserves as you want or treat people as well as you wish you were treated? Can you honestly be there for someone without flying into a rage on their behalf?

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pm_your_perky_bits t1_j2c01rn wrote

Considering that I'm a grown man, I have the hindsight to understand that I have never been beaten by my parents, who are long dead.

Did I experience physical discipline as a child? Absolutely. I learned incredibly valuable lessons that I will never forget.

The world at large has caused much more irreparable damage to me, primarily due to my resistance of my parents attempts to teach me how to conduct myself in a proper manner in a cruel, unforgiving society.

I regret nothing other than taking so long to accept discipline and instructions from two parents who wished nothing more than for me to excel in this harsh environment. I miss them dearly.

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legochemgrad t1_j2c19wk wrote

I’m also a grown man that went through years of therapy to be in the place I want to be. Do I understand what my parents were trying to do? Yes. Did it actually help me get anywhere faster? No.

Life pushed me and then my own work on self improvement got me there. And that self improvement doesn’t depend on getting abused. You’re clinging to old ways and bad parenting. Good parents can teach without pain. Good parents have their own trauma under control.

I’m sorry that your parents are dead and that you’re grieving them but grief doesn’t mean that they were right.

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pm_your_perky_bits t1_j2c4kz4 wrote

I am going to respectfully to disagree with you. I am happy for you that you were able to find a way to make breakthroughs that got you out of whatever abuse you may have endured that brought you to where you are now. Not everyone is willing, or able, to get there. I can't, nor would it be prudent or reasonable, for me to imagine how difficult that must have been.

I appreciate your condolences regarding my parents. However, I never, and still don't, feel like I was abused. Were they perfect? Of course not, and I would be remiss to assume that anyone is capable of it. Therefore, I can not, nor will I, accept any claims of bad parenting. You piss with the cock you've got.

Regardless, I very much enjoyed our interactions this evening. Thanks for the insight.

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