Unless you referring to her as your "GF" was a typo you're a true masochist if you try to stay with this person. This woman is evil and cruel. Save yourself and get far, far away from her.

And she mean ex girlfriend surely?

Dump her.

Never date someone who humiliates you to other people.

And you're still with her? Do you hate yourself?

>has a history of being very vindictive and malicious when angry and also very jealous.

So a lot of this does seem in line with the reality of what you know about her, right? She wants sex, you are tired or turn it down, she spirals and goes and talks shit about you to her exes. Clearly she has a lot of problems regulating her emotions, particularly when upset, and it results in her being toxic and abusive.

And... yeah. You seem to know this. So I think you are more or less being forced to face the reality that as she is she just isn't ready or capable of a healthy relationship. You probably already knew it, it just took her attacking you in a way that hit your pride deeper to finally have that sense slapped into you.

I think it is pretty clear this can't continue. Don't take what she says literally, likely it was all informed by her erratic emotional state. But don't dismiss it just because of that either.

You have a high conflict partner with a cruelty streak. Is this how you want to spend your life?

Why do you want to date someone who does this? She obviously doesn't respect you. Even if you were having issues in the bedroom it's wildly inappropriate for her to be shit talking you like that.

I'd also have to question why to her ex? Why does she need him to know she's so sexually unsatisfied? She's 30. There's no way she doesn't know this is fucked up. She's definitely laying the groundwork for him to swoop in like a knight in a shining codpiece.

I'd leave her. You're not 16 anymore. Adults don't act like this if they are actually invested in their relationship. There are a tonnes of women out there who would be a better partner.

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