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[deleted] OP t1_jea60yb wrote on March 30, 2023 at 3:13 PM

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[deleted] OP t1_jea6ib8 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 3:17 PM

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YourRAResource t1_jea7h74 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 3:24 PM

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I'm the first person to come here and say that I don't condone snooping and that having a need to indicates that there's no trust in the relationship already, regardless of what you might find.

But here's the deal; it's done. You snooped. Turns out you were right not to trust him. But does you being wrong change the reality of the situation? Is he any less of a scumbag because you went through his phone? Of course not.

"It's over. You're a piece of shit who can't be trusted." You don't need to overthink the conversation. You don't need to approach this sensitively. You should know that the end game here is that you're ending the relationship. What do you want to work? A relationship where you're constantly disrespected? Respect yourself enough to walk away. Good luck.

hangingsocks t1_jeag5zo wrote on March 30, 2023 at 4:21 PM

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As a 47 year old woman, I wish I could go back and tell my 19 year old self to not waste my breath or energy on any guy who does gross shit. So I am going to tell you, he has shown you who he is. Take it to heart and move on. You won't even remember who he is. I know he feels important, but he isn't. Get comfortable moving on from shitheads and you will get to the good guy much sooner.