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CrystalQueen3000 t1_jealsc3 wrote

Short answer: You can’t

And I think your frustration comes from knowing that. She’s unwilling to communicate and unwilling to work on your issues in couples therapy.

At what point will it become a dealbreaker for you?

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HiCommaJoel OP t1_jeamuc5 wrote

That's fair.I am holding out hope that there is something I am doing wrong or could do differently. Or that, if I am patient, the behavior will change. The lack of communication which causes the lack of boundaries doesn't cause issues only between us, but in her whole life. The 12 hour job and demanding family are only two examples.

Your question is a good one, and very difficult to sit with. I appreciate it though.

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