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HHIOTF t1_jegslz3 wrote

What do you hope to achieve with the letter? It just invites a response and continues the cycle.

Narcissists never learn or change. Save your mental health and just move and move on.

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ladymeowskers OP t1_jegtbfe wrote

I want to say that he needs the mental health check to “get well soon”, the only way I’ll ever allow him in my child’s life is if he gets therapy.

But as a narcissist, I know this feeling is naively optimistic.

I guess I just want to have all my boxes checked that I’ve done all I can do to have a relationship with him, without giving into his manipulation.

Because you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help himself. Maybe no one else has brought up the thought of therapy? Regardless of how fleeting it might be?

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HHIOTF t1_jegudp3 wrote

At his age, I promise you, someone has brought up therapy. He doesn't think he needs to change.

You are beating your head against a wall.

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