Thank you. I think I’m going to write a letter to get it off my chest, but not send it, just burn it at the beach and let the ocean carry my grief away.

This is helpful. I know this is the right path. I guess I just needed a community vote to make sure I’m not in the wrong. I think that’s that hardest part getting over a long term gaslighting relationship,just validating that your beliefs are true, regardless of the truth.

This was helpful. I know you’re right. I know my husband is right. It’s just hard. It’s less hard recognizing that he’s been gaslighting me my entire life, but still difficult nonetheless.

I want to say that he needs the mental health check to “get well soon”, the only way I’ll ever allow him in my child’s life is if he gets therapy.

But as a narcissist, I know this feeling is naively optimistic.

I guess I just want to have all my boxes checked that I’ve done all I can do to have a relationship with him, without giving into his manipulation.

Because you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help himself. Maybe no one else has brought up the thought of therapy? Regardless of how fleeting it might be?