Submitted by ThrowRaConfusedAF090 t3_zzopzl in relationship_advice
TLDR: Not sure what to do after ex texted me she's was pregnant
I'm posting for someone else:
My (M21) ex (F20) contacted me after 2 years. Initially, she tried to contact me on and off, always texting the following: "I need to talk to you about something important in person." I didn't respond at first and at some point just blocked her. Now she texted me saying she was pregnant and I have a son. She also added, "...the kid has a right to know his dad..."
I'm not sure if she's lying or how to proceed. She hasn't responded on sending proof.
Edit: She has the kid now, but didn't specify how old he is.
Update: He doesn't want to meet her unless there is concrete proof that the child even exists because he believes this is maybe just a lie to get him to meet with ex. Also, the ex responded with the following:
"I am not comfortable sending picture of my son through text. I want his life private and I don't trust his girlfriend (that's me) with private information like birth certificates and my son's identity. I can give you proof in person but not through text. Just say that you want to be a shjt father if you don't want involvement" this is paraphrased.
Update 2: He is VERY stressed out about this whole event. But, he is planning to meet up with the ex to see proof. It'll be a quick meet up in public where there's a lot of people.
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