She [F20] asked why me [M20] and her younger brother aren't very close despite dating for almost a year

Submitted by ThrowRA_120226 t3_10q7gle in relationship_advice

So she brought this up to me and I said I haven't seen her brother that much and when I am with her family, there isn't a lot of things I could think of that would start a conversation with her brother. She then compared me with the boyfriend of her friends which made me upset. What shoould I do?

1

Comments

You must log in or register to comment.

AutoModerator t1_j6o9sig wrote

Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our rules here. We'd like to take this time to remind users that:

  • We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors

  • Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.)

  • ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban.

  • No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. This is not an all-inclusive list.

  • All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don't get a free pass.

  • What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, "body counts" or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. This is not an all-inclusive list.

If you have any questions, please send us a modmail.

#This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.

I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.

1

YourRAResource t1_j6o9zth wrote

Why would there be an assumption to be close? Separately, how old is he?

2

StonksRUs69 t1_j6obsud wrote

That's a hard one to approach.

I dated my ex for about four years, and this was never a concern of hers, outside of her asking me to text her brother now and again. That said, I wasn't close with her older sister or younger brother. Sometimes you just don't have a lot in common with people - that's okay. If you have a family that gets together often (uncles, aunts, cousins, etc.), you'll see a lot of people that don't really have a lot in common but are cordial. You don't have to be close to everyone. Does her brother even care?

2

stellastellamaris t1_j6odzkz wrote

Has the brother indicated at all that HE is interested in being close friends with you?

If you get along with her siblings (and they aren't assholes) that's more than enough for most people.

1

AuntyVenom t1_j6ofwt2 wrote

It's not fair to compare you to others, and she should know that you didn't like that. Why is it important you be "close" with her brother -- has she said? Because as long as you're not an asshole with family, the rest of the relationship is pretty much up to the 2 people involved.

1