I'm sorry to say, your relationship was doomed when he ignored you while you were going through an abortion.

If your partner can't be there for you during illness and hard times, then he's not worth any of the good times, because the good times are EASY. The hard times will really show you your partner's character.

He showed you his total lack of character when he withdrew from you instead of supporting you. You should have ended it right there.

All the other stuff you two have done to each other, while clinging to this dumpster fire relationship just prove the point I already made.

Please put this thing out of it' misery and move on. You deserve to be happy, and you deserve someone who will stick with you during tough times. It's not this guy.