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YuutaIgarashi t1_j6pbb0t wrote

Reply to comment by 3veryonepasses in I (M21) am stuck in a roulette of sort, I have a date with my crush (18M) for Valentine day and there's this person (19M) asking me out, what should I do? by [deleted]

I valued them greatly as a friend, and I've told them about my love interest as well, I did say no every time they ask me out, I understood how love can hurt so much so I never hesitate to tell them "no", but they just refuse to acknowledge my lack of love interest in them.

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Therisemfear t1_j6pct5i wrote

If he values the friendship as much as you do, and is not just being nice for the sake of getting in your pants, he will understand. But it seems he is unwilling to accept your feelings and is ignoring your boundaries.

You have to issue an ultimatum and if he still refuses to acknowledge your lack of love interest, you need to cut them off as this friendship is inherently unsustainable.

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AuntyVenom t1_j6ph0i3 wrote

someone who "refuses" to acknowledge your communication about your relationship with them is someone who is harassing you. There is no excuse for this, and you have no duty of care to coddle it.

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