canyouaskfirst OP t1_j6oukmz wrote on January 31, 2023 at 9:13 PM

Reply to comment by nothanksandthensome in I (29F) am dating a guy (29M) that has a peculiar relationship with his EX - what's your perspective? by canyouaskfirst

Thank you so much for your thorough response. I really appreciate it.

I guess we were both on dating websites and talked about who we were dating while we were also dating each other. I do agree though that if there are people out there that he aligns on this matter, he should be with them rather than choosing to be with me and complaining. I agree that it is an unnecessary comparison and a way to distract from my feelings.

nothanksandthensome t1_j6p2j5z wrote on January 31, 2023 at 10:02 PM

It's absolutely a way to distract you from your feelings.

Again, I really don't believe your boyfriend is thinking of anyone in particular when he says "other women don't have an issue with it". It's just an excuse he throws out there to feel more justified in continuing his inappropriate behaviour. It's like when a man is called out for cat-calling and claims "none of the other women I yelled inappropriate things at ever complained to me about it".