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MckittenMan t1_j6p6wz2 wrote

Dam. I would be considering it myself tbh.

I don't care about any of the other details besides this:

>She has mentioned several times that she would rather not work, has threatened to quit her job without having one to go to, and rather force me to make all the money while she doesn't work.

You want a partnership, equal marriage. You're not looking to give handouts and freerides. And the way she is coming off, sounds like she's looking for a freeride.

Its like, entitlement instead of appreciation.

And I understand how you feel insulted by the co-workers comment. Like woe to me, my partner expects me to work, we're struggling so much, he doesn't pamper me anymore, my life is so hard.

If you're seriously considering a divorce. Please talk to a lawyer to gain a better perspective and start preparing for it, setting yourself up to win on some BS:

>Under the federal Divorce Act, spousal support is most likely to be paid when there is a big difference between the spouses' incomes after they separate. However, this is not always the case. A court may decide that the spouse with the lower income is not entitled to support

And you want to set yourself up to win on that point. Give yourself the biggest head start you can, once you have everything in order (do everything the lawyer says), serve the papers.

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ThrowRA_1111111111 OP t1_j6p7pte wrote

at the end of the day who WANTS to work? I get it but we have to and when we first got married I was making $75k a year (base salary) and she's seen me grow to $250k (base) so I know she didn't get into the relationship for the money but one of her friends once said that I had "financial potential" which is now very very loud playing in my head.

I was so insulted from my coworker comment. I am digging into savings to make sure she isn't financially stressed, didn't ask her to contribute $1 more than she did before. So wtf? I got real mad about that.

yikes I didn't even think of the whole lawyer BS.... she has a lot in investments (stock market) some money she got from her mom. When we met her mom used to pay for her entire rent so she def has other ways to support herself than just me working.

thanks for getting back to me, I appreciate it.

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MckittenMan t1_j6pc4ng wrote

No worries man.

If you're realistically considering divorce. Talk to a divorce lawyer.

You made 250k/yr before, and you're unemployed now due to laid off.

He/she might even recommend to take a tame job and drop the idea of a high level role for while. Get through the divorce process.

Might give less of an argument on her side.

Anyways, if you're going the divorce route, every decision should be made by lawyers advice.

Otherwise making it work.... 100% she needs to step up and make you feel like you're not an opening to a lifestyle she wants. She needs to be humbled and work to contribute. Make you feel like an actual person and not a piggy bank.

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