Been married for 10 years now as someone who's 37 years old (bit of an anomaly these days). Professionally I was the main bread winner for awhile but my wife wanted to go further with her career but we didn't want to sacrifice raising our kids ourselves. We were both raised by parents where both the man and woman had full time intensive careers that took most of their time while we were younger so it was important for us to not that do that ourselves. I've adjusted to doing what would be largely considered the mom's role by handling home school and house stuff (though she ends up cleaning after me half the time heh). We're both quite happy and proud to say that our kids have grown into teenagers with good heads on their shoulders. It's important to be flexible with each other and not let culture dictate what your role should be IMO. Wife is close to finishing her MBA soon and likely is going to make more than I would have in IT anyway so it panned out.