DopeDetective t1_j1elhmm wrote
Reply to comment by snash222 in Narcissistic tendencies moderate the association between testosterone levels and generosity in men by chrisdh79
a narcissist can be very kind & generous to the outside world. they can be the most helpful person in the room. they might even be deeply involved with volunteer work or the church.
it's all about building an image. but they're cruel to their own families behind doors. it also shields them if their victims ever come forward, no one really believes someone so nice could be so bad.
freshmountainbreeze t1_j1fonvh wrote
Absolutely this! Everyone thought my narcissist husband was the nicest most generous guy. Sure, unless you were someone he supposedly cared about. Then he was the devil.
hardtobeuniqueuser t1_j1gxvz2 wrote
same with my exwife
freshmountainbreeze t1_j1gycad wrote
I'm so sorry.
drakens6 t1_j1et06i wrote
Not always, sometimes they keep it from even their families and reflect all of the cognitive dissonance inward, resulting in a "ticking time bomb" scenario
tankyogremagi t1_j1f6zqi wrote
hey man, some of us reason ourselves through things and not become the unibomber. addressing oneselve's cognitive dissonance is almost required to learn how to change yourself. little by little.
drakens6 t1_j1f82iu wrote
Speakin the trutru
midri t1_j1glx9h wrote
It's so weird being a narcissist that believes deeply in the idea of socialism. The only people that really get the brunt (I'm neglectful to the point it's almost a defining trait...) of my narcism are my family members though, so sorta makes sense. So weird being narcissistic, but selfaware...
danSTILLtheman t1_j1he4xv wrote
The only time a political view or ideology really makes someone seem like a generous person is if they’re comparing it to another less generous ideology. That’s usually in a conversation where a person can easily try to act like they’re taking the moral high ground. They could still be a huge asshole though
Jackers83 t1_j1fm0r1 wrote
That’s an interesting way to put it. I would agree with you.
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Wingkirs t1_j1frijk wrote
Absolutely this. The love bombing before the rug gets pulled out from underneath you.
mari815 t1_j1g9xgz wrote
A good indicator of a narcissist who is generous is if they don’t get the narcissistic supply they are being generous for…they will angrily demand the gift back.
A truly generous person gives and doesn’t want anything in return
Moal t1_j1hamwe wrote
This rings very true for me. I grew up with a narcissist father who makes obnoxiously showy acts of generosity. But behind the scenes, he’s screaming, throwing tantrums, and calling me names for refusing to give him thousands of dollars for him to spend on others to show off his “generosity.”
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