My ex was an over the top gift giver. If we set a budget for holidays he would ignore it. If I asked for something he would find the most expensive version he could find to buy even if I asked him not too. He expected the same. He often threw fits or pouted if he didn’t get what he wanted for a holiday. He would spend money we didn’t have. He would also buy himself half of his list weeks before a holiday. It’s an interesting place to be in, he wanted to be seen as generous, he would ask who I told about my gifts. I was grateful but also I was expected to feed his image of himself as a great husband so I needed to make sure I was over the top grateful or it didn’t count.