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Sad_Spare354 t1_je7cdda wrote
Thanks for the support. Tough day.
skinnyjeansfatpants t1_je7fghr wrote
I'm so sorry. Please get yourself an STD test first and foremost. Find a good therapist for yourself, you have a world of awful feelings to sort through (and maybe more difficult feelings to come).
You deserve better than what your creep of a husband has done to you.
LNikon720 t1_je7oyqj wrote
I mean... sorry for the Op.. but sexworkers.. are more safe than your average person in regards to protection.
theonegunslinger t1_je7znpm wrote
you are right tho i would guess they are suggesting that if he is paying for it, he might also being trying to get it for free when he can
Falconflyer75 t1_je885hc wrote
They might be more cautious but given the volume of partners and let’s face it the type of partner, there’s still quite a bit of risk
joeythenose t1_je88127 wrote
Seems pointless to downvote this comment. I guess we all are expected to jump on the holier-than-thou train?
But, yeah OP sorry it happened. Infidelity sucks ass.
AcrobaticSource3 t1_je7cwjp wrote
Time for an STI test!
OffusMax t1_je838xc wrote
Yeah, sure. He never followed through. Sure, every cheater never follows through.
And if you believe that, I’ve got a bridge in Brooklyn I’d like to sell you.
ImpendingSenseOfDoom t1_je84a1b wrote
They will always only admit to what has been proven - there is evidence that he contacted these people, but apparently no proof that he acted on it. Let's say there was proof he acted on it one time, but not every other time he made contact - then he would admit it was just one slip up, but only once and never again. The reality is OP will never know the truth but there is enough damning evidence to suggest he has cheated several times that his word is not enough to believe and he probably has acted on it many of those times.
Sad_Spare354 t1_je8mmwk wrote
Yes, he crossed a line, shattering trust in a way that can't ever be truly rectified, and thus also the foundation of relationship.
OffusMax t1_je84mfb wrote
Yeah of course. They’re all the same
OkVolume1 t1_je7a8qd wrote
Surprise!!!
Sad_Spare354 t1_je7ccqq wrote
It did briefly cross my mind to not confront him, and instead invite everyone he had messaged to his surprise birthday party.
Mabaleen246 t1_je7le6k wrote
Yikes. This is my worst nightmare.
s3v3red_cnc t1_je7kb3b wrote
Practical-Low-4154 t1_je7omok wrote
Save the decorations and plan his funeral instead
Coco_Dirichlet t1_je89478 wrote
Give him divorce papers wrapped up for his birthday present.
He is lying about not using prostitutes! Check his bank accounts.
nightowl_i t1_je7qxmt wrote
So sorry that you had to go through all this pain. Stay strong!
Sad_Spare354 t1_je8m87q wrote
Thank you for the support. It means a lot.
adibork t1_je82ceb wrote
Fuuuuuuuu——-k. Get yourself into S-ANON online meetings immediately. This is a shock. He may never be well. He may be a victim. He may be a narcissist. The S-ANON groups kept me alive in the early days of my grief.
Many people suffer with partners who are sex or love addicts. It’s not your fault, responsibility or even your business — the addiction predates your relationship.
Immediately suspend all judgments on yourself, him, your past and your future. Don’t try to think anything or figure it out.
Just EAT, SLEEP, BREATHE and attend those meetings. Link is attached! 💜💙
Sad_Spare354 t1_je8mwz3 wrote
Thank you for sharing this.
Falconflyer75 t1_je88cu4 wrote
If it was just a porn addiction, that might not be too bad, but calling escorts…..
damselin30s t1_je71b1j wrote
It’s up to you whether you want to stick it out if he plans on getting help. But you don’t have an obligation to. Sorry you’re going through that OP! Not your tifu though!