TekkerJohn t1_it5jm0p wrote on October 21, 2022 at 2:14 AM

>She always joked about me not being experienced enough sexually.

What is the "joke"? Does she believe in sexually experienced virgins? She sounds like someone who doesn't know WTF she wants. I think you shouldn't form serious relationships with people who make jokes about subjects they "do not take casually". That's a red flag.

throwway_1768 OP t1_it5lah1 wrote on October 21, 2022 at 2:27 AM

>What is the "joke"?

It might sound weird now that I think about it, but it'd be comments along the lines of "haha you've never touched a girl before".

I see your point but I don't think i can redeem myself over lying to her.

thatsoundthough t1_it5msfg wrote on October 21, 2022 at 2:38 AM

Then move on. Mourn the relationship if you want to, be friends with each other if you can. If you get back together when you're both more mature, cool. If not, you just go on. This isn't a monstrous offense on anyone's part. Just be human with each other and talk. Be totally honest and respectful with each other.

throwway_1768 OP t1_it5n9nr wrote on October 21, 2022 at 2:42 AM

Thank you for saying this. I too hope that we're able to move past this some day. Even if we're not able to, I still think I'm going to take the time to build the courage and the ability to have difficult conversations with my partner

Disappointment_66624 t1_it6rnnn wrote on October 21, 2022 at 10:28 AM

>It might sound weird now that I think about it, but it'd be comments along the lines of "haha you've never touched a girl before".

Lol you dodged a bullet

Vast_Reflection t1_itrlxfr wrote on October 25, 2022 at 8:04 PM

That’s really weird . . . Almost seems like she was trying to hold it over your head. Or that she’s making fun of virgins, when she’s one? Like the mindset is so weird to me.