Vast_Reflection

Vast_Reflection t1_j9pi9ik wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in TIFU by hurting my soulmate by [deleted]

Yeah I was with someone whose only happiness came from me. It ended with us breaking up. We’re friendly now but I know the second I find someone else things are going to go haywire because he never got over me. That’s not romantic. It’s really hard for both of us.

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Vast_Reflection t1_j8g7zxg wrote

Maybe try to figure out why you don’t have those feelings for anyone else? Now that you know it is possible for you to feel that way, it might be that those people have hurt you in ways that are incompatible with love. And that doesn’t have to do with you being broken or incomplete or missing something that others have, it has to do with troubled people not knowing how to appreciate and love you in the way you deserve. It might be the situation/location/the people you are around, so maybe changing those around would help you?

I definitely know that feeling. It took me a really long time to find people I connected with, and when they left, it left a hole in my life that is very hard to fill. I’ve found some things that help, hobbies, spending time with friends, and my pets. But it’s still lonely at times. I found a therapist and that’s been helping. I have hope that my life will be different than what it is like now. Things can be different. For both of us :)

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Vast_Reflection t1_j4x1jr8 wrote

The way you write makes it sound like she was your first love. And first loves really really hurt when they end. It sucks. It took me years to get over my first love. It takes time. Let yourself grieve and heal.

Also going forward into the future, it will be a rare ex that would be ok with just hooking up. If you just want sex, find a friend with benefits or something. Hooking up with an ex can bring back feelings for both people, for one person (who then gets hurt all over again), or it’s just not the same because both of you have moved on and it’s kinda pointless.

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Vast_Reflection t1_j4x0fud wrote

The way you write makes it sound like she was your first love. And first loves really really hurt when they end. It sucks. It took me years to get over my first love. It takes time. Let yourself grieve and heal.

Also going forward into the future, it will be a rare ex that would be ok with just hooking up. If you just want sex, find a friend with benefits or something. Hooking up with an ex can bring back feelings for both people, for one person (who then gets hurt all over again), or it’s just not the same because both of you have moved on and it’s kinda pointless.

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Vast_Reflection t1_j1mv6xa wrote

Sooooooo

I had just moved in with my coworker who had two dogs. I had my door shut but it didn’t shut all that well, and because I had just moved in, all my baking ingredients weren’t put away yet. The dog got into baking cocoa, brown sugar, powdered sugar, chocolate chips, and white sugar. She puked EVERYWHERE on the carpet from downstairs to upstairs, and had to spend the night at the vet. I felt so bad.

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