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okcafe t1_iy9zuk6 wrote

this would prompt me to break up with you. Don’t count on marriage lol

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z-eldapin t1_iya08sj wrote

As she gets stronger, she's going to realize you're a dick and she will leave you

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Rook_Eldritch t1_iya0qjs wrote

Bruh thats straight up abusive behaviour. You are not equipped to help her.

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okcafe t1_iya0yay wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#778,972)

Sure, whatever you say. I can tell OP feels shitty but in the grand scheme of things, he lost his temper and added to her trauma, and one day she will probably realize that. People don’t just forget things like that and I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s just too scared to leave

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ikiwikiwi t1_iya20le wrote

Wow you are an absolute ahole.

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NoReallyLetsBeFriend t1_iya2usa wrote

Love how people are hating... Glad none of them have ever lost their temper or patience... Anyway, I hope it works out. Sometimes shit gets crazy or out of hand in the heat of the moment, but as long as you both work through it and acknowledge the wrongdoing, it can be forgiven and forgotten.

If you are physically abusive, that's a different story altogether because you'd leave marks, bruises, welts, etc. That's NOT ok! What you two need is to draw clear boundaries to prevent it from happening or getting close to it, or ever getting worse!

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Bora_Bora_Baby t1_iya3is2 wrote

Your girlfriend went through a traumatic experience, and then you more or less physically and emotionally abused her. Doing shit like that, and then apologizing, is the restart of the abuse cycle.

And if you can’t control yourself and your actions over something she went through, how are you going to act if she ever gets pregnant, and towards children?

If you love her, then you need to get yourself together or get therapy.

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TasteTheRAMBO714 t1_iya473d wrote

God damn bro learn to be a better person, your poor gf

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okcafe t1_iya5119 wrote

Replying to NoReallyLetsBeFriend (#779,415)

yeah you’re actually right. I have never lost my temper while someone is crying about their trauma and then perpetuated it further. I’m sure many of us “hating” have never gone out of our way to slut shame a victim of abuse. oh yeah and then claiming we “love” them yet screaming at them when they cry.

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AutisticPenguin2 t1_iya6y1c wrote

Replying to senhordelicio (#779,493)

Yeah, but I gather he already knows he's the asshole.

At least, I fucking hope he does. There's losing your temper, and there's violently pinning a trauma victim against a wall and trying to pull her top off. Like... what the fuck??

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AutisticPenguin2 t1_iya7uy1 wrote

Replying to shadesofwolves (#779,851)

Notice the bit where physical abuse is not ok because it leaves marks?

Not because, you know, it's abuse? No, no the real problem is leaving evidence of your abuse where other people might see it.

So many red flags, if this were a soccer match the field would be empty.

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1Sluggo t1_iya86ra wrote

A one hour old account. Really bad fiction.

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pcash40 t1_iyaa15y wrote

you’re a fucking piece of shit go admit yourself somewhere

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RissoldeChocolate t1_iyab0qz wrote

Replying to shadesofwolves (#779,473)

Keep calling abuse the most mild insignificant shit. Leave your house more, maybe you'll learn that leaving someone that trully cares about you just because they acted wrongly once is not a good idea.

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shadesofwolves t1_iyabmx1 wrote

Replying to RissoldeChocolate (#781,250)

> After a while, the sound of her nonstop crying really pissed me off. I grabbed her and pinned her against the wall, and I started yanking her tank top and I yelled at her

> mild insignificant shit

Tell me to leave my house more again, that'll really hammer home your defence of abuse while also being abusive. Real next level shit right there.

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SadArm4678 t1_iyac5qy wrote

They all say they'll never do it again. Always. They do. You will. You can tell by your title you will. You are disgusting and I hope she comes to her senses before you abuse her again.

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okcafe t1_iyanfqj wrote

Replying to RissoldeChocolate (#782,420)

the person was traumatized from an event that happened in January. it literally says it up there in plain text. I’m not so dense as to think OP is the cause for all of it, but OP added onto a traumatic situation. Sorry that the word “trauma” is so triggering for you

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okcafe t1_iyd710b wrote

Replying to [deleted] (#797,658)

Wow you really showed me! Men are so smart. Also you followed me into another thread you creepy fucking idiot. Go get a fucking life instead of looking through my profile for fun. I know that’s about the closest interaction you’ll have with a woman all week but please do better

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AssManInRVA t1_iydkp87 wrote

Replying to okcafe (#808,719)

Since you deleted your threatening and angry response I will respond here.

I truly hope you get help for you seem to be a very angry young girl. This anger and hate will eat you up from inside as it seems it already has. There are many places you can turn for help with this anger and racism - it is not too late.

I truly hope you find the hep you need.

I guess deleting your angry and threatening posts is a step in the right direction showing your remorse for your words and actions. And I can take that as your apology for being so rude and crude.

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AssManInRVA t1_iydlllo wrote

Replying to okcafe (#813,118)

Please get the help you need.

Your racist comments are not tolerated in this world. Being a racist is really a horrible way to go through life. I hope you change.

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Load_Altruistic t1_iyetswg wrote

If you love this woman, you need to leave her, because you're the worst thing in her life

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