Sounds like this is more of a bullet dodged then any fucking up on your part.

I got bpd too babes we know how this goes PLEASE do not see this man again

Explain to me exactly why you'd want to be in a relationship with that person.

Seriously, why?

please let this man leave you or leave him yourself. i’ve shat turds that could treat you better than that.

That is such a good question. I have issues. Would love someone to want me. But that kinda mindset gets you these guys. Never had a good relationship. Don't even know what that looks like. Guess I'm taking what I can get. Or subconsciously think I deserve.

I think the fuck up is dating an alcoholic who only spends time with you at a bar and non jokingly criticizes you for not eating the way he likes.

You should be breaking up with him. Eat pasta however you want as long as you don't make a mess for others to clean up

Money.

"Rich dude" was all the description in the post.

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I just mention he's a "rich dude" because I'm a bit bitter over the rich guys I've attracted in the past. Would rather date someone who isn't. The story proves my point lol.

also seems like.he is.married

I'm pretty sure the problem isn't rich dudes. It's married alcoholic assholes.

I came to two different conclusions after reading this. Title should be “TIFU by dating an asshole” or the whole post should really be an AITA post, in which my response would be no, you are not. Sorry you had to deal with this douche bag. Don’t fret, you’ll find someone better one day!

The taxonomy if men is wider than "rich-not rich".

There are just as many jerks and alcoholics in the non-rich category. More, actually.

Have you given a thought what you want in a mate, besides financial standing?

It's perfectly appropriate to pick up an oyster to eat it.

In Italy they twirl their pasta without a spoon.

He's straight up r/confidentlyincorrect material. This guy can fuck right off.

Today he tells you how to eat pasta. Tomorrow he tells you what friends you can have and when you can talk on the phone. Get away from this controlling asshole

One, he's a raging asshole, and that attitude doesn't get wiped out by his money.

Two -you have BPD. Could you possibly pick a worse situation for yourself, like, one certain to fuck up a person with BPD?

Your fuck up wasn't your manners, your fuck up is being in this situation at all.

You need to lay off the booze and drugs.

True. I don't care about their financial standing more socio-economical standing lol. But I haven't had many good relationships. I ideally want someone who doesn't have a substance issue, isn't married, only hit me consensually, and not vanilla. uh.. yeah. That's it.

You're right. I was doing well cutting back on drinking and never getting high until I started seeing him. So yeah, that's not a great idea for someone with bpd either.

Right... that's a good point.

I have BPD, myself, I know how easy it is to get caught up in bad ideas.

I didn't intend to sound mean, it was more a "Oh, holy fuck, this is a bad idea!".

ditto; I wouldn't be with someone who complains about the way I eat pasta lmao

He not into you. Don’t settle for someone who feels they need to correct you all the time. He sounds toxic

People who use spaghetti spoons are lying to themselves

Just take your shirt off and slorp down the noodles like everyone wants to

No, you're good. I didn't perceive it as mean. It is a fucking bad idea haha

Caring about socioeconomic status is caring about how much money they have and then some. So yeah you do care about financial standing.

That's not a boyfriend, it's a drinking buddy.

Time for therapy OP

Ghosted by my last 2. Others won't call me back. I'm a hopeless cause. lol

Fair. I don't want them wealthy.

Those turds of yours... are any of them single?

Married into Italians.. they don't use a spoon.

That's for uncoordinated Americans.

I think what you mean is TIFU by dating an alcoholic. End sentence. Break up with him.