zzzojka t1_iu2fe9r wrote
Reply to comment by UWontAgreeWithMe in TIL Chester Bennington, lead vocalist for Linkin Park and Stone Temple Pilots, hung himself in 2017 because of depression stemming from SA as a child ๐ by rpaul9578
I always hated how "go to therapy!" is what everyone slaps like a bandaid onto a pile of ashes that is a ruined person's life. Did they not see all the suiัidะตd celebrities with a lot friends, loving families, successful arts, access to best therapy and comfortable rehabs? It's not an exercise you do to inevitably get better. It doesn't always help.
One of the things that got me through was a Stephen Hawking quote, something like "while there is life, there is hope". I'm not sure time helps or therapy helps, but life sometimes helps.
I looked through your profile and I think you're a very likeable funny human. I wish you days that are easy to live through and a good score in kicking kids with a bouncing ball on ice!
SirFraggles t1_iu6isdt wrote
I feel like people neglect the realization that therapy takes work. It takes years of really hard, emotional, grueling work. And in fact, therapy can take a lot more work than just trying to ignore the thing(s) that are making you miserable. And it has to arrive at the right time. Sometimes it comes too little and too late for the weight and trauma of the things that came before it. Therapy IS the solution, but it has a LOT of caveats.
I say all of this as someone who has been in therapy for nearly a decade now--and it was a really, really close call between which would win: therapy or suicide.
zzzojka t1_iu6mp5f wrote
I'm glad it helped you, but it's not like that for everyone and isn't a guarantee even with hard work over the years. People who never reached healing they desired did not work less hard that you. Besides years of therapy I have education in psychology.
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