This isn’t about avoiding the notice, it’s about letting a family share an AirTag for mutually owned items. Remote controls, keys, cameras, luggage, etc.

Make it an opt-in invite. I can choose to share a tag with my family & they have to accept or they don’t get to see it but get notified if it moves with them.

These are trivial problems to solve.

So she remembers I can track her phone using family, but forgets to remove herself from the family or that AirTags exist?

You don’t seem to be getting what I’m saying.

Let’s say my daughter leaves suddenly and no longer wishes contact. She forgets to remove herself from my family. I’m still able to track her phone, watch, and laptop. What does the extra AirTag give me that I don’t already have in terms of tracking her without her permission?

In terms of notifying her, if she did as you said, she wouldn’t even be aware of the AirTag I had already placed on her because she silenced it long ago. It won’t even show up on her list.

However, if apple did as I’m suggesting, she would also be able to track the AirTag I placed on her, since she is still part of the family and has access to the AirTag instead of just notifications disabled. That seems like a better solution, no?

Either they’ve removed themselves from the family, which means all tracking would stop, or they’re still part of the family and tracking is enabled.

I don’t see why AirTags are treated differently, and I’m seriously trying to understand.

Why would this estranged family member still allow me to see their phone, watch, Mac, and AirPods locations, but not AirTag?

For everyone shouting about it not being a pet tracker, fine. I’ve give a few other use cases:

I have one in my GoPro bag. My wife took the GoPro for a weekend, so she got notified.

I have one on my keychain, and let my daughter use the car. Same result.

Finally, I have one in my laptop bag, and left it in my wife’s car.

In all of these cases, I want the AirTag to be shared with my family. I want them to be able to track those items as well as me, because they might need to locate them when I’m not around.

Since we are all part of the same Apple family, we already share our phone, watch, and Mac locations. Why not AirTags?

The federal government has essentially mandated a standard of CSS with the Infrastructure bill that will have one every 50 miles or less on US interstates.

Because all wireless Internet technologies, including Starlink, have a very finite amount of shared bandwidth.

You likely are happy switching from DSL to T-Mobile 5G or even LTE, but if everyone around you did the same, you'd be back to DSL speeds.

Fiber to the home is the only solution that doesn't have shared bandwidth and fast speeds.