JudyLyonz

JudyLyonz t1_j6eeycu wrote

This. As I understand, most kids who are picked up are on the higher end of the spectrum. These are the kids who, when I was a kid in the 70s and 80s, were labeled as being problem kids in one was or another: tantrum throwers, behavioral problems, underperformers, overly sensitive, or just plain weird.

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JudyLyonz t1_j668gxi wrote

I'd be interested in reading the whole study. There are a few things I can think of that could contribute to it.

First, kids who have other types of issues are more likely to be screened for autism because they are already on the radar. Next, have the numbers of children on the spectrum grown or is this a reflection of the broadening of the spectrum and more children being identified?

5 fold seems like a lot but I think, I graduated from school in the 80s and I didn't know anyone in "regular" school who was autistic. Fast forward 25 years and I had a nephew who was identified when he was 3 and began receiving services. He struggled in school but just graduated from college and is now a teacher. If they had not caught it early, he might never have gotten where he is today.

When he was growing up, there were always a few kids, girls and boys, who were identified as being somewhere on the spectrum.

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JudyLyonz t1_iutxyic wrote

Lesson learned too late.

First, when you move in, walk through the apt with the landlord (or apt mgr) and make a not of any issues on the lease: damaged or dirty walls, old or stained carpets, broken appliances, etc. Next, take pictures of anything that is not in order.

When you move out, take pictures of the entire place to show the condition when you moved out.

Finally, if there is anything withheld from the security, they are required to provide you with an itemized listing. How long you lived in a place only matter in connection to security deposits in that there are allowances granted for normal wear and tear. A person who has lived in a place for 10 years will have more leeway for wear and tear than someone who only lived in a place for 1 year.

So the first thing to do is to ask your former landlord for an itemized listing of what the deductions are for. If the carpet is dirty then the charge should be for cleaning or replacing it. Otherwise, check with an attorney to see what your options are if you disagree with the charges.

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JudyLyonz t1_iug7qhy wrote

OK, this is a pretty shitty situation and I do think the ASPCA could have done more. But did they call around to all the local rescues and shelters to see if the cat turned up I would think if they did, they might have been able to find the cat before it was rehomed. I'm also assuming the cat escaped out the door and wasn't let outside intentionally.

But yes, AsssumiIng (again) your friends want the cat back, they should follow up with an attorney and find out what their options are. Pets are property so they probably have some recourse. Have they been able to reach out to the people who adopted the cat? I know that if I sound out I accidentally adopted someone else's pet, I'd give it back.

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JudyLyonz t1_itemrwj wrote

Do you have any idea why she bugging you? Does she know and can she gt to you physically? Are you afraid for your personal safety and/or the safety of others? Does she have a history of doing this sort of thing?

So what to do?

  • First, see a lawyer, see a lawyer, see a lawyer. Not Lawyer Google, not lawyer "this is what someone from the Internet thinks, but a real flesh and blood attorney. Find out what your legal options are
  • Keep a log of every communication with her:
    • Date and time
    • Who initiated it
    • Is there any precepitating event
    • A screen shot of what was sent or a transcript of everything that was said from Hello to Good Bye
    • Is there any precipitating event shortly after (slashed tires, broken windows, lots of hang up calls, calls to your job, etc)
  • Every time she contacts you, notify the police and add a notation to the log
    • What time and date you called
    • Who you spoke with
    • If they took any kind of official report
    • What they said, any commitments they might have made

And talk to a lawyer.

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