KJM31422

KJM31422 t1_j6pi6k2 wrote

Reply to I (F24) saw an email from Tinder on my boyfriends (M28) phone by g0ldeng0ats

I can't speak from personal experience with Tinder, but it is absolutely possible if not likely that they send out advertising emails. Especially if he jsut deleted the app and didn't suspend/deactivate his account.

Since it's specifically Tinder gold that's being advertised, I would guess that it's an ad meant to pull dormant users back in.

"We haven't seen you on Tinder in a while. Here's a free 2 weeks of gold to get you back in dating pool!" Etc...

I wouldn't worry about it at all if he's given you no other reason to worry.

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KJM31422 t1_j6ph1q6 wrote

Reply to The guy (31M) I’m (24F) dating hasn’t gone down on me after two months but loves BJs. How do I even bring up me receiving? by [deleted]

Just ask him!

Thays not meant to be short and flippant... it's really that simple

> But I would love for him to take the lead and tell me where to go and what to do all the way through.

Literally say these exact words to him, and ask gim to go down on you. He's 31, not 18 you can be direct.

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KJM31422 t1_j6pg4qa wrote

Reply to I (19F) Need Advice Setting a Difficult Boundary With my Boyfriend (20M) And His "Friend" (20M) by ThrowRA_SR5

OP, I know this seems complicated, but it's actually pretty simple... you and you BF already set this boundary with Logan once. He cut Logan out for 6 months. He can do it again. You need to put your foot down and stand up for yourself - don't make it about the wedding, you can't force him not to go, but you can make him decide between being friends with Logan (who sounds like an absolute piece of shit) or being with you.

It is completely 100% acceptable to say, "No, I will not be with you if you are friends with Logan." I would absolutely do the same. Logan is playing to your bfs ego about the wedding clearly, and unfortunately, your bf fell for it, so far.

To put it simply from jsut your post, Logan has

  • sexually harassed you

  • abused his power as Jay's friend to try and ruin your relationship

  • is blatantly abusive to his gf

  • is, pretty objectively, a sexist piece of shit.

You are PERFECTLY within your rights as a normal, lovely, sane human being to issue an ultimatum to your bf. It's you or Logan. Obviously, it's easier said than done, but the silver lining is that if he picks Logan, he's really not someone you'd want to be with anyway.

You are not AT ALL crazy for not wanting this dude in your life. You're not telling your bf he can't be friends with him, you're telling him he can't be friends with Logan AND date you.

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