Kat121

Kat121 OP t1_j2anq0a wrote

This morning I do feel guilty for body shaming. At the time I thought it was cool because she said “small dick ENERGY”, suggesting that a confident alpha male wouldn’t feel the need to grandstand to a teenage girl. Psychologically devastating to a guy like that, and all his little tater tots saw.

But on behalf of all the guys out there who have a small penis and are NOT misogynistic crap piles of obvious consumption, ignorance, and hate - I apologize and promise not to use SDE as a slur again.

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Kat121 t1_iu9r7yg wrote

“Hey, we have talked about this person, this issue, this feeling a lot and none of my previous advice seems to be helping you. It may be above my pay grade as your friend to help you. It might be time to talk to an adult or a professional a about this.”

Turn the conversation towards their agency to make a change instead of focusing on what others are doing to them or how they feel. “That sounds terrible, what do you plan to do about it?” “There is nothing I can do, I am a powerless victim.” “That can’t be true, try to brainstorm a couple of ideas no matter how stupid. You’ll feel better.”

Also, there is a form of conversational “grey rock” where you kind of tune out and just reply “cool, bummer, or wow” to everything they say, offering nothing of yourself to the problem. It’s kind of a defense against the black arts reserved for people that just do not take a hint about over-sharing.

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