Ironically my ex wife came out lesbian so I am an expert in this 🤣. The kids handled it really well but she also found one of the most amazing partners ever. So we have a good scenario but sometimes a bad partner can cause soooo many issues. And sadly the kids can get messed up. Seen in acquaintances i know.

That's completely fair and totally fine. Just be careful in this area. Dating is so tricky with kids so just be super aware. And I had partners who just weren't that patient sadly and it's like look I want to fall in love and find my person but not sacrificing my kids mental health ya know?

Sorry to say this but if he hide and went out of his way to set that. There's a reason.........and probably not a good one.

Regardless of anything take things very very slow. When kids are involved especially a young mind bringing other adults in and out several times during a childhood is not ideal.

So if this does work out great! But keep your kid away for quite awhile until you are sure it's permanent. And no don't even bring her around as a friend.