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LorenzoStomp t1_j2f1blg wrote

The best apology is taking action to not let it happen again. Quit drinking. Go to therapy, both individual and couples. Don't make her drag you or do all the work of setting up the appts, take initiative and suggest it and follow through yourself. If she doesn't want couples therapy go to individual by yourself. PsychologyToday's Therapist Finder makes it very easy to get connected if you are in the US and several other European/South American countries.

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LorenzoStomp t1_j1jba1y wrote

Pointed it out like mentioned the same flaw in your statement that you did in your post? If that's what happened, then they all processed that you said something mildly dumb (like seriously, it was a very mildly thoughtless statement. You weren't being insulting, just not thinking of the implications. Everybody does it sometimes), saw that you were embarrassed, and moved on. I'm assuming you wouldn't hold a similar statement against one of your guy friends ("I wish I was a woman so I could wear dresses!" "Really? Not sure a cute miniskirt is worth the sexual harassment and being passed over for promotions at work but go on."), right? You learned a lesson about thinking before speaking; there's no point in continually beating yourself up over it, just let the experience be your guide for the future. That's how people grow. Your friends don't hate you and probably forgot about it 5 min after it happened.

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LorenzoStomp t1_j1ifpil wrote

You don't mention their reaction to your statement. If they laughed or the conversation kept on in the same tone, I would assume no one was offended and they all took your joke in the manner it was intended. No harm no foul.

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LorenzoStomp t1_iztf041 wrote

Reply to comment by justadudebruh in How dogs scoop up water. by ooMEAToo

She was just smart enough to get in trouble. She almost died as a puppy from trying to get at the cats' food. I have never seen cats work together before or since but they saw her slink into my parents' galley kitchen and they looked at each other and split up so each went running into opposite ends of the kitchen. If my sister hadn't run in ahead of them and snatched her up they would have tried to end her.

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LorenzoStomp t1_izssulx wrote

Reply to comment by justadudebruh in How dogs scoop up water. by ooMEAToo

My parents' GSD would then make a beeline for the nearest person to wipe her mouth on their pants. My mom was keeping her water bowl in the bathroom for a while and she would bust in the door to drink when she knew you were in there peeing because then she could try to use your pants as a napkin.

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LorenzoStomp t1_ixqmi8g wrote

Entrapment means forcing someone into a position where they have to commit a crime they wouldn't otherwise commit. Like if a cop pretends to be a guy's friend and loans him some money, then puts a bunch of pressure on him to pay it back immediately and hands him some drugs and tells him to sell the drugs to get the money, that's entrapment. But if the cop just says, "Hey wanna make money quick? I'll front you drugs to sell", that isn't. Offering to sell someone a kid isn't entrapment, you'd have to put pressure on someone who isn't a kiddiefucker (idk, uh, "Hey Steve, rape this kid or I'll Civilly Forfet your car"?) to make them do it.

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LorenzoStomp t1_ix4qfss wrote

Oo, ok. Lemme double check with the fambly to make sure I don't have any competing obligations, my sister is coming down from Cumberland for the holiday and she can't do Xmas. I think she'll be on her way back by Fri evening but I gotta confirm.

Edit: Also how much are the tickets? Can I Zelle you or do you prefer cash?

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LorenzoStomp t1_iwt10tr wrote

I used to have a Chinese landlord. We got 3' of snow dumped on us one year and he helped me shovel our driveway. Then we shared his last cigarette, which had been crushed in his back pocket so the filter broke off. There was a panda on the pack and he told me it was the same brand the Chinese president smokes. I dunno if it increased my cardio but it was an experience

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LorenzoStomp t1_iuhmb0u wrote

It's pointing out that even if we were to make an ethnically homogenous state like many racists want, they would still find reasons to judge and exclude others. The problem lies not in the other person, but in the judgers' inclination to view any difference from themselves as harmful.

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LorenzoStomp t1_iu991lo wrote

It's not that you are wrong, it's that your point doesn't change the argument. Women (and kids) weren't seen as people back then so more men felt like it was okay to treat them like shit, but it was generally frowned upon to be kicking the crap out of them every night. Those feelings were more likely to express themselves when alcohol lowered their inhibitions. Changing how men view women was/is a much longer process, prohibition just helped it along. If staying sober gives ol' Jimbob the ability to restrain most of his violent urges and leaves him with enough money to feed his kids, at least those kids had a chance of growing into better people than their dad.

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