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Mattbl t1_j6i0wlh wrote

That's frighteningly bleak but seems all too real.

I want the Star Trek future. The computer could do just about anything but it needed the right input and for the crew to ask the right questions. In the meantime, they spent their free time exploring their creative outlets.

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Mattbl t1_j32f089 wrote

As a kid, I was also painfully shy. I found that it made me a good listening post for people, and extroverts would seek me out as a friend b/c I listened a lot more than I talked (mostly out of awkwardness or not knowing what to say).

Over the years I've found myself being a better and better active listener mostly because I hate when people don't actively listen to me. Think of those awkward times you've started a story in a group of friends and realize nobody is listening - I am always the person making sure someone is listening.

So I guess my point is that you're just exhibiting good active listening skills, which you've learned over time. Honestly, I wish more people would learn them, because it really can make you more likeable and easier to talk to.

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Mattbl t1_j09c8mh wrote

I think the most painful thing about cancer treatment progress is that it gives extended hope to some of the hardest to treat cancers, but many times end in the same result after the patient has gone through months of extended treatment.

I'm all for it, in the end, but the road there creates an extended roller coaster of ups and downs for the person suffering, and their family.

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Mattbl t1_izarhl0 wrote

Our company used to do a yearly Christmas party and one year they had a live band, but the thing is that everybody there wants to chat and get to know their coworkers outside of work. The live music was so loud that you couldn't even be in the same room, so everybody jammed into a side room so they could hear each other talk without screaming.

I felt really bad every time I went to the bar b/c I had to go through the room with the band, who was playing to a literal empty room. They actually were very good, too, it was just a terrible venue for them.

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Mattbl t1_ix4nkvm wrote

Can you provide sources where someone was trying to talk to a 6-year-old class about anal sex? I saw a story about a trans woman trying to explain to her class what her being trans meant because they were questioning her about it but I haven't seen anything about anal sex discussions.

There's an extreme difference between talking to children about gender identity and sex acts. They are not even close to one in the same. It's also very dubious equating discussions about gender identity to "non-conformity." You're painting it as "straight normal, gay abnormal." Personally, I don't want a kid to be told they're "not conforming" if they don't identify as cis. We've been doing that for decades and look how many mental health issues it's caused in the LGBTQ+ community.

It's also a total strawman to call anyone who opposes this bill or wants to discuss it further a "groomer," like you do in another comment. It basically feels like you're using that as a defense-mechanism and don't actually have any justifiable reason for supporting this other than fear that your kid is going to somehow turn gay by being exposed to gay people in the real world. No one that's debating this wants young kids to be sexually preyed on, stop parroting that bullshit because it makes you look ignorant.

There's a reason this is called the "don't say gay bill." The right hides behind vague wording and Ron innocently says things like, "where does it say that?" But we all know it's a fear of change and anything that you don't deem status quo. There's very, very few (if any) examples of a gay/trans teacher sexually grooming young children. If you think a gay or trans person wanting children to know they exist rather than having to hide their identity is "grooming," you have an extreme misunderstanding of the context. Believing that is why you got told you're lapping up GOP talking points in another reply.

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Mattbl t1_iw7e020 wrote

Years ago my dad accidentally did something similar in front of my wife.

My dad and step mom were going to host a dinner, and my wife was in the area a bit early and rather than go all the way home she texted them asking if she could just come over. My step mom told her it was no problem. My step mom did not mention, however, that she wasn't home and only my dad was there. In retrospect, my step mom should have gotten confirmation from my dad first.

So my wife goes over, knocks and loudly announces herself as she enters (they usually left their back door unlocked when home), and starts hanging out in the kitchen after no one answers her. This is fairly common in our family when gathering at their house.

Apparently my dad was showering and didn't hear my wife arrive. So he gets done with his shower and walks out of the bathroom fully naked, and goes right into the kitchen in full view of my wife. I'm told he was very startled and ran back into the bathroom.

They were both cool about it, as it was an honest mistake on everyone's part. It at least gave us a funny story for future family gatherings.

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Mattbl t1_iui7tc6 wrote

So this is unrelated but in Game of Thrones: House of the Dragon, the first episode features >!a jousting tourney and they showed it descend into everybody killing each other!<. Now I realize that was for dramatic effect, but even in GRRMs books he always breaks down jousts the way you just did. Participants compete for notoriety and rewards, not to kill each other, and there are rules and blunted lances. It really bothered me how the show just >!continued the Hollywood trope of medieval jousting being some sort of death sport where anything goes and riders can just randomly try to murder their opponent in hand-to-hand combat if they don't like them!<.

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