NoNeedForAName

NoNeedForAName t1_iqwrl2i wrote

For us it took probably a couple of years to get to the point where I would call us friends, but up to then we were at least able to get along. I think the fact that we're both 100% devoted to our daughter helped a lot.

And I feel exactly like you in regards to holding on to spite and anger. I saw so many people in divorce cases who would do virtually anything to hurt the other party, even if they caused themselves even more problems in the process. I never understood why anyone would just choose to be an asshole like that.

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NoNeedForAName t1_iqwpu36 wrote

Same here. I used to practice law, and crazy ass divorce clients were a big part of the reason I was miserable enough to quit. My ex wife and I didn't exactly get along great around the time of our divorce, but there was never any of that childish fighting, using the kid as a pawn, or any of that other bullshit. It was a pretty amicable split, and we're actually good friends now.

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