SkyrimIsForTheNerds

SkyrimIsForTheNerds t1_jaelpt0 wrote

You are horribly selfish. Everything you’ve described here has only been to the benefit of yourself. Your delusion that you could give your daughter a better life than her loving mom (I assume because you want to just throw your money at problems) is laughable. You can give her the best life by giving them child support.

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SkyrimIsForTheNerds t1_ja29w37 wrote

I don’t think acknowledging the reality that we live in is implying that we should not participate. But it is disingenuous to say that we are letting fear limit us as though it is an unreasonable fear. Describing the very real, if small, fear of sexual assault or worse as “comfort” is tone-deaf.

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SkyrimIsForTheNerds t1_j9fcz9d wrote

Good gravy, listen to your damn boyfriend instead of thinking you know better what he wants than he does. You bringing it up constantly is just reopening the wound for him and of course he’s getting mad again. Give him time to mourn the time he’s wasted on the game before he realizes the time he’s really wasted has been in this relationship.

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SkyrimIsForTheNerds t1_j1qfht6 wrote

There are a couple of ways you can move forward from this. One is to be taking medications to reduce the likelihood that you could spread it to a partner, be honest and upfront about your status, and let them make the decision of whether the risk is worth it to them. You also could look into dating other people who already have HPV and HSV (I hope you had the others treated).

Both of those viruses are far more common than people think, as many people either never have any symptoms or eventually expel it from their system.

Be honest about your sexual inexperience with a potential partner too. The right person will be patient and willing to teach or learn with you.

There are a lot of people who are in your shoes, whether their first time was consensual or not. It is not a death sentence for your romantic prospects unless you make it so.

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SkyrimIsForTheNerds t1_it86u2q wrote

Awww, I think a lot of us have unfortunately had experience with what you’re going through. Don’t ever feel guilty for telling your story. Staying silent is part of how this continues to happen to so many people, and it’s not our fault something was done to us. I’m glad you have such an amazing support person in your corner.

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