Then tell them to look up those things. I know there are many things not so good in islamic cultures, but don't make our mistakes.

> most of the people want what they see in Hollywood.

Look at how here in the west they're teaching little kids IN SCHOOL that they can cut up their genitals and be the other gender. Look at the steep rise in fatherless families. Look at the porn problem and normalization of things like "Onlyfans" we have. Look at the rise in drug addiction. And decide if we're the example you want your emerging adults to be following.

> it can be manifested in many ways, not letting you show your hair, not having the right to divorce "by default", not letting you take custody of your child after divorce, arresting you for no reason, genocide, not letting you work because of your religion, etc.

It really seems they should be highlighting these things then.

FATHERS not getting their kids is a big problem in the west by the way. And lots of people also have big problems with how sexually explicit the west has gotten. It's a shit show! If that's what Iranian youth want, I wouldn't recommend it.

What right exactly? To show hair? Why is having to cover one part of the body so important when we already have to cover so many other parts?

> it's a fight for freedom.

To show hair??? Seems like a lot of deaths for that.

Seriously, Why is having to cover one part of the body so important when we already have to cover so many other parts?

> i get stuck comparing myself to others. i am only 23 but feel like i should have accomplished so much by now . if anyone has any advice i am happy to hear

Everyone compares themselves to others. Compare yourself to people who are doing better than you (who've often had help getting to where they are that you haven't had) and you'll feel deficient. Compare yourself to someone worse off than you and you'll feel better about yourself and grateful for what you have.

Compare yourself to a homeless drug addict, or someone with cancer, and you'll realize you and your life doing pretty good.

> I'm at a point where I've been doing similar self reflecting and it's very scary to acknowledge the time that has passed without clear direction.

A big part of that now is because we have to make decisions. For most of the 2 million years of human existence we evolved to live in, there wasn't much in the way of choices so you couldn't really make a wrong one.

>But I also recognise I'm doing better than those who make it to retirement and then suddenly find themselves lost.

A lot of your satisfaction in life will come from who you compare your life to: Compare yourself with someone who's doing much better (easy to do because those people are splashed all over social media, plus everyone else grooms their social personia to be as positive as possible, regardless of reality) and you'll feel deficient and bad about yourself, compare yourself to someone who's done worse / had it harder and you'll be more grateful for what you have, and feeling grateful they say is important to life satisfaction. People find themselves lost in retirement because they let their jobs be their purpose. Have more than that. That said, by the time you reach retirement, your productive years are mostly over, so there's not a lot left you can do. If you want to do something meaningful it's better to do it earlier.

>and better relationships and friendships is a huge part of that. I'm much more mindful of how I spend my time on earth.

This is all evolutionary as I said before. We're very sensitive to having friends because it was crucial to be part of a group to survive on the prehistoric African sauvana. A long human was soon a dead human. And we bond with our children because we're such an altricial species, our young take so long to mature, we'd get fed up with all the work and abandon them if we we didn't, so we evolved to take satisfaction from it to keep doing it, and all forms of life's purpose is ultimately to pass on their genes. That's why so many people who don't have kids turn their pets into "furbabies" to have something to nurture.

Exactly. Everything else gets spread around by social media, why not helpful information? Though as I said, almost no one will listen because we're normalizing bad and self-destructive behavior these days so why change?

> Some do. It just takes many of us longer than we'd like.

yeah, granted. Letting young people know earlier in life I hope helps them stay on a smart path.

So much stuff that would make your life better from the start is common knowledge if we'd just listen, but now we're getting scientific evidence of it.

> A bit of searching will tell you what you really should be focusing on. > > Do that.

People never do that.

For anyone interested: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/

why should he have drawn a picture 10 years ago?

Something that pisses my off more than anything is adults that won't clap when kids win trophies.

Like other's have said, having children when you're not too old to help them. Have people around you who love and care about you is what makes a good life.

I've accepted I never will. My plan is after I'm old enough to get medicare, and am more likely to get fired due to old age in many jobs, I can switch over to contract work, which cost employers less and still be employable. Maybe even buy a winnebago and travel around a bit to different jobs.

If I get so I can't work then disability.

Good on you man! Congrats!

> AT BEST completely broke within 3 years of retirement unless I almost double my expected wages.

Or just never retire.

If it doesn't hold true for the important stuff, why post it at all?

“I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn't quite make out. I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.”

― Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

> kids.

Kids are a lifetime project. There's definitely a timetable for them.

And like most stuff in here, this is inaccurate.