I hope that they have improved as people and all were able to make amends.

Peace was eventually made between all parties thankfully. Although she did try to creep in her antics with my then GF. She then told her that if our behavior wasn't satisfactory we would happily leave and come back when she is comfortable with it again. I didn't even get a chance to say anything, that was all her doing.

I love my wife, lol. (Mother backed down)

As for the cutoff approach, it is a severe ultimatum, and cannot be issued without full sincerity, else it will be called out as a bluff and tested. If you try this, it has to be made with a definitive conviction that you are willing to go right then at that moment with only the clothes on your back with only the plan to figure things out as you go.

It can be done but it's the hardest thing to do. For what it's worth though, thousands of LGBTQ+ individuals impose this reality on a regular basis, and I know one personally. I am so proud that they were able to build a quality life for themselves in less than 2 years and are in a stable and loving relationship.

I wish you well and a more optimistic outcome.

My mother did similar to me multiple times. Eventually she did it while I was hosting an international guest at her home. Everyone was happy and excited at the start. Then she got so stressed at my being in another city with them that she demanded WE come home early. Not me, but both of us. The plan was 10PM return, yet she made the demand to start returning at 7.

This absolutely would destroy the night so I fought it, but eventually she won the argument with me. My friend told her that she's being absurd and outright declined however.

So she revoked him from returning.

An international young adult who came here on a shoestring budget.

Thankfully he was able to crash at a mutual friend's place that night and I went home. I then did the worst thing I could do to her after that, absolute silence. This sounds laughable unless you know my mother. Silence, and the void of information it brings, is murder to her.

By the time she acknowledged that I appeared upset I laid it down in absolutely simple terms, in as few words as possible. That will never happen again, or this silence will become permanent.

Message received and respected. (with growing pains, but respected).

The devil permits the IRS in hell to extract back taxes

Replace:

"I have no money"

With:

"I have negative money"

Then you will be closer to the truth.