Then A probably doesn’t want to cross a certain boundary with his colleague. Also, is H his brother or cousin?

So is H his cousin or his brother? Why not just point blank just tell A how you feel about him?

> Look before you guys say anything I know the age gap is crazy. But my queen has taught me that age is just a number.

You should get a new teacher.

Then I am sorry, but if I was the guy, I wouldn't stick around unless they are trying to get help. Are you seeing a professional about your trauma?

> I have pushed him away a bunch due to childhood trauma creating it difficult for me to feel safe with trust in relationships.

What exactly happens though when you push him away?

Holy shit you were married over 17 years? How long were you dating before?

Don't leave your art business. You aren't being selfish. You're being asked to put your life on hold until he finishes school. You're going to regret going more than staying.

> The issue is I’ve never really liked the idea of actually having a wedding it just seems like too much.

You can just have a small wedding unless in her eyes she wants a big one.

He’s not guilty about doing it. He’s guilty he got caught. If you don’t think you can trust him again, move on.

He could get himself killed pissing off the wrong driver. I’ve seen news stories of people just pulling out a gun and firing at other cars.

You’re naive and have poor self control. I feel bad for your husband and son. Also for the other persons spouse and kids.

Maybe don’t pursue anything? Especially if you think your ex is going to want revenge?

♫ ♫ Talk to him. Don’t beat around the bush because you’re gonna regret wasting time.♫ ♫

Keep it civil and professional. Don’t pursue anything further as she’s given strong indication that this is over. If you do try to push it, she could reach out to HR. If she did lie about her being broken up, nothing stopping her from spinning her own tale of this to make you look like the bad guy.

She might have not even officially ended the relationship. She just said that so you’d hookup with her. She thought the grass was greener, but it turns out it wasn’t and regretted it.

> She told me that her friend kinda forced her to date this guy because she needed to get out more

Then I guess she’s not the one at fault here /s.

Nah that’s a bullshit excuse. I understand wanting validation, but going on a date to get it?

Seems like the most important person to ask if this is an overstep in the relationship is your wife.

Did you tell him early on he's just messaging you from different accounts? Not hard to understand it becomes harder to block someone if they're using separate accounts.