Wendon
Wendon t1_jbquovm wrote
Reply to No Friends No Life by flipper1965
I know it sounds scary as an introvert to do this but I forced myself to go to one of the board game/TTRPG nights at redemption rock brewery and now I'm playing two games with two separate groups of people. First time I've had extracurriculars since college, highly recommend you try it out! I think the next one might be next week?
Wendon t1_jbfii6k wrote
Reply to comment by Blotofink in Is the area around Clark University safe? by Blotofink
I think you are probably likely to get many biased answers about this because many people who live in Worcester have not lived in a different city, or moved from a more rural locale to Worcester. There is probably more crime than average in the Main South neighborhood, but if you have been in a different city before I would not say it is uniquely worse than any other slightly downtrodden midtown in a different city. On the upside park ave is rapidly developing and you will basically be in restaurant central where you are. If you already have good instincts for city life you will probably be fine.
Wendon t1_jbaijao wrote
Nowhere I have ever worked has cared about BBB complaints. That is probably even less effective than a bad google review.
Wendon t1_jb7vh7w wrote
Reply to comment by xxlaur77 in Worcesters Best Pizza? It certainly isn’t from Frankie’s by OandKrailroad
Alright leave bagels out of this, bageltime is fire
Wendon t1_j9ocgsj wrote
Reply to comment by outb0undflight in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
Yeah I mean, "trolling" is understating the severity, they're a grade-A grifter asshole if you look at all of their responses and then read the edit on the parent post. No idea what compels someone to suck this badly, seems boring.
Wendon t1_j9l6mub wrote
Reply to comment by LetsGoHome in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
I just feel bad OP's post got hijacked by this asshole but yeah, hopefully it is a productive read for anyone approaching in good faith.
Wendon t1_j9l3ydh wrote
Reply to comment by LetsGoHome in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
Don't engage, this person is deliberately trolling. They got me too.
Wendon t1_j9l2pc2 wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
Literally not a single person on this thread said that. You are being deliberately obtuse. You know for an absolute fact that you are being a debate bro about this. OP asked a simple question and you turned it into a debate, I hope I never meet someone like you IRL. Cannot imagine deliberately being a dickhead on purpose to someone looking for help, I'm just not built like that.
Wendon t1_j9l0o3o wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
I'm gonna drop out of this now because I know with 100% certainty that you are being deliberately combative about this, and know what you are doing. The reason OP is asking for a trans-friendly hair stylist is because they don't want to get a haircut from someone like you.
Wendon t1_j9kyu3z wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
If one person in a room doesn't think hair is gendered and literally everyone else in the room thinks it is, how are you concluding that hair isn't gendered
Wendon t1_j9kykr8 wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
You know very well what constitutes feminine hair you're just starting a fight.
Wendon t1_j9kx8vn wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
You are not communicating like someone who wants to understand, you are communicating like someone who wants to fight about something. If you are being genuine you should maybe think about why you are being so combative about it. If I showed up to a salon and asked my stylist to help me look more feminine and they responded like you, "what do you mean feminine, you don't think women can have short or buzzed hair" I would leave and go to a different stylist. I cannot believe you are acting in good faith.
Wendon t1_j9kwv6e wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
Yes it literally does? If I show up and tell the stylist "I want to present more feminine can you help my hair communicate that" it absolutely does matter. You're a bully, you cannot possibly be acting in good faith, no one is this dense.
Wendon t1_j9kwp3d wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
You are literally arguing with everyone on this post about it so maybe you should look in the mirror here and do some reflection as to why your gut instinct when a trans person is asking for stylist recs why you feel the need to turn it into a political discussion
Wendon t1_j9kw17j wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
Ok dude, but it obviously matters to the person who made this post, so why are you going out of your way to fight about it? I don't care if it matters to you. I'm not trying to refer you to a stylist. Good for you.
Wendon t1_j9kvmy6 wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
You are overcomplicating this. Against my better judgement I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you are being earnest- it doesn't matter what you think when you look at someone, if you think they are male or female or trans. It doesn't matter that some men have 3' long hair and some women have buzzed heads. It matters to them that they are presenting as the gender they are, in a way that makes them feel comfortable in their bodies. This is a really 101-level way for a trans person to improve their dysphoria, I urge you to do some research on gender dysphoria if you are genuinely interested in the topic.
Wendon t1_j9ku5w5 wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
Yeah it does, if a male presenting person is asking for help presenting more female or vice versa it will obviously come up, don't be dense. Hair is tremendously gendered.
Wendon t1_j9ks8r9 wrote
Reply to comment by dupattaluella in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
They probably are a new trans who hasn't figured out how to style as their gender yet, and are trying to get referred to someone who can help them who isn't transphobic.
Wendon t1_j9k0afz wrote
Reply to Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36
I am not trans but I have been seeing Nikki at the Den for... 4 years? 5 years? Many years at this point, she is wonderful and kind and does a great cut, and I know for an absolute fact she has kicked people out before for being transphobic. She used to work at Sage & Grace and now has her own salon, so it's a very low-key environment if you have any questions and are looking for a safe, judgement-free zone! https://www.vagaro.com/thedenorganichairstudio
Wendon t1_jbrq13g wrote
Reply to comment by Choobtastic in No Friends No Life by flipper1965
It is typically the third thursday of every month, so I think it should be this upcoming thursday? they advertise it on their facebook page, if you keep a look out this week when they post their events it should give a concrete date/time!