Tbh with that kind of distance on a stacked order, I'd be leary of taking it regardless of where it's going. $32 for a trip that could take 30 minutes or 90 minutes depending on traffic.

It sounds like y'all would love the south suburbs, something like Mount Lebanon. You can't stray too far from the city if you still want to see "some liberals," but the immediate south hills are great for that. I would even look at Dormont, although the houses will be a little smaller. It's technically a borough and not a separate suburb, which I believe (?) has some tax implications. Can't describe how because I've never lived there.

Niche, but in terms of cancer treatment, my dad used to travel to Pittsburgh for the UPMC Hillman Cancer Center when he was facing late-stage skin cancer. We lived over 3 hours away in West Virginia and they sent him all the way up here; it's a very good facility.

I think you've done your research very well and this could absolutely be the place for you.

As someone currently in the process of moving from Pittsburgh to Orlando, and who has previously lived in the DC area... we have some of the tamest, most sane drivers (and traffic congestion) of any major city. It seems you just have exceptionally bad luck.